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**You matched strongly
across multiple Blueprints
BUT THE ONE THAT STOOD OUT MOST IS:
The
"Desired"
Blueprint
(D)
You Open Through Feeling Desired.
When you feel attractive… pursued… chosen… or wanted physically,
it's hard not to reciprocate the desire.
You’ve likely never said this out loud…
but when your partner shows you—
in the way they look at you…
talk to you…
and pursue you…
that they find you deeply desirable…
👉 something in you comes alive.
WHAT YOU NEED MOST
Some might mistake your desire for attention as superficial—it’s not.
Attraction is part of how you were designed.
To draw in…
to inspire…
to be desired.
Don’t dismiss that—
understand it.
Because for you, attraction isn’t surface-level—
it answers a deeper question:
“Am I wanted?”
This is the question your heart keeps asking.
And when that question is answered…
something powerful happens.
Your nervous system settles.
Your confidence rises.
Your desire comes alive.
To feel:
chosen…
desired…
valued…
Because for you, feeling wanted
is what makes you feel secure.
And when you feel secure…
there's no limit to what you can offer those around you.
WHERE THINGS BREAK DOWN
So when you DON'T feel attractive...
you don’t just feel disconnected—
👉 you feel unwanted.
And something in you begins to shut down.
Your sense of worth...
Your confidence...
Your desire...
And when that happens…
You don't lose the NEED for intimacy...
You just lose the WILL to pursue it...
WHAT THIS CAN FEEL LIKE
You may still want connection… but you hesitate.
Because if you don’t feel chosen in it…
👉 it doesn’t land the same way.
Your partner may be trying…
but if you don’t feel desired…
something inside you holds back.
And over time… discouragement sets in.
Because that need to feel wanted
never really goes away—
it just gets buried under hurt…
or starts looking for reassurance elsewhere.
SO WHY DOES THIS KEEP HAPPENING?
Because your partner may be expressing love…
just not in a way that feels like desire to you.
So they think they’re showing up—
but you still feel unseen.
You’re both trying…
but speaking different intimacy languages.
WHAT CHANGES WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND THIS
When you understand how you open…
something shifts.
You stop making this about shame.
You stop questioning your worth.
And you begin to see what actually awakens you—
and what has been missing.
👉 Because when you feel wanted…
your body responds.
Your energy rises.
And desire begins to come alive again.
BUT THIS IS ONLY PART OF THE PICTURE
This was just our 3-minute QUIZ, which produced a limited snapshot of your Intimacy Blueprint—not the full story.
👉 You haven't yet taken the FULL Intimacy Blueprint Assessment—
where you can finally see the full picture of what's been happening between you.
The deeper experience reveals:
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your complete pattern (not just one type)
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how you and your partner miss each other
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how to reconnect in a way that actually works
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And most importantly… You'll receive a step-by-step path to full connection—
👉 so you’re not just understanding it…
👉 you’re actually changing it.
"It's crazy how accurately this described us..."
—Layla R.
“It felt like someone was finally telling my wife everything I’ve wanted her to understand—but never knew how to say.”
—Randy Abrams.
“For the first time, we were able to address what was really happening and not just get stuck on the surface.”
— John & Shayne W.
FOUNDING MEMBER ACCESS (LIMITED):
LIFETIME ACCESS: $97
(After Launch Price - Summer 2026: $197 annually)
✔ Only one purchase per couple needed
✔ Risk-free — full refund if it doesn’t help
What You’ll Receive:
🔥 THIS IS NOT JUST AN ASSESSMENT AND IT'S NOT JUST ANOTHER COURSE.
This is a complete Intimacy Discovery System—designed to help you rediscover each other and revitalize your love life.
You'll understand:
- Why you and your partner keep missing each other
- What your system actually needs to open
- And exactly how to reconnect — in a way that finally works
🧠 INSIDE YOUR FULL BLUEPRINT, YOU’LL DISCOVER:
Your Core Desires — what your heart is really asking for
Your Opening Pathways — how intimacy actually begins for you
Your Shutdown Patterns — what quietly blocks connection
Your Missed Connection Loop — why you keep missing each other
Your Partner Dynamics — how your two patterns interact'
💥 AND MOST IMPORTANTLY:
👉 Your Fastest Path Back to Connection— With a step-by-step intimacy playbook that shows you:
- what to say
- how to respond
- and how to meet each other in the middle
🔥 RESULT:
You stop guessing…
and stop feeling stuck…
👉 and finally experience the connection you’ve been trying to create.
FOUNDING MEMBER ACCESS (LIMITED):
LIFETIME ACCESS: $97
(After Launch Price - Summer 2026: $197 annually)
✔ Only one purchase per couple needed
✔ Risk-free — full refund if it doesn’t help
If you’re the type that wants to understand everything before deciding…
Continue Reading.
You identifid most closely with:
THE DESIRED BLUEPRINT
But this is only part
of the picture
—You also scored highly in other categories as well.
Together, these patterns form your unique intimacy profile—shaping how you open, respond, and connect to your partner.
And even the areas you scored low in…
tell a story about where connection may feel harder—or more confusing.
Inside the Intimacy Blueprint system, you begin to see the full picture.
Not just how you open…
But what’s actually happening between you and your partner.
Because your sexuality isn’t random.
It reflects:
• what helps you feel safe and open
• what you’re drawn toward
• what may feel missing
And when you begin to understand that…
Intimacy stops feeling confusing—
and starts becoming something you can finally navigate together.
And when you discover your blueprint…
You don’t just experience better intimacy—
you finally understand how to meet each other in a way that actually works.
This is where most
couples quietly get stuck.
You may naturally open through emotional connection…
while your spouse opens through something completely different.
So what feels loving and obvious to you…
might not even register the same way to them.
You reach in a way that makes perfect sense to you…
They respond in a way that makes sense to them…
And somehow, you both miss each other.
Over time:
One of you feels unseen...
The other feels like they’re trying—but failing...
And both of you quietly start to feel alone.
Not because you’re broken.
But because you’ve never been shown how your patterns actually interact.
👉 This is exactly what the Intimacy Blueprint reveals.
THE
A psychologically rich, spiritually grounded intimacy discovery system for married couples.
Discover your marriage's unique Intimacy Blueprint—and why you and your spouse may feel disconnected, even when you love each other.
Your desire for intimacy is not random.
It's a map to the deepest longing of your heart.
And marriage is designed to be the place where that longing can finally be met.
Want to share your results with your partner?
Or share the quiz with them?
Copy & Paste these page links:
This Blueprint Page Link:
https://thewholenessmethod.com/desiredblueprint
Quiz Link:
The 8 Intimacy
Blueprint Types
✦
• The Emotional
Connection awakens me.
When you respond to me in a way that makes me feel truly heard, seen, and known, my heart opens to you...
• The Sensual
Sensual Engagement awakens me.
Sights, scents, tastes, sounds, and touch... Engage my senses and my defenses begin to fall.
• The Desired
Being wanted awakens me.
The thought of you getting turned on by me, stirs something deep and wild within me.
• The Giver
Giving pleasure awakens me.
When you receive my efforts to relax you, bless you, and bring you pleasure, I can't help but want to give you more.
• The Playful
Play awakens me.
Respond to me playfully with flirtation, charm and joyful energy, and you'll win me over every time.
• The Imaginative
Imagination awakens me.
Capture my imagination with story, curiosity or novelty—and I'll follow you almost anywhere.
• The Archetypal
Polarity awakens me.
When masculine strength leads and protects while feminine trust is inspired to surrender, I am yours.
• The Holy
Meaningfulness awakens me.
When I know our intimacy is honoring to God, my heart opens to love you even more.
"I have an SGP blueprint. I'm a Sensual, Giver, Playful..."
"I'm EDH; Emotional, Desired, Holy..."
Discover Your Marriage's Full Intimacy Blueprint
— what it reveals about your subconscious needs, your deepest longings, and how you and your partner’s patterns open to each other.
For a limited time, you can join as a founding member before the official launch and help shape the Intimacy Blueprint experience.
As a Founding Member, you receive Lifetime Access to everything.
After Launch Price - Summer 2026: $197 annually
Only one purchase per couple needed.
THIS IS NOT JUST AN ASSESSMENT... AND NOT JUST A COURSE...
IT'S A WHOLE NEW WORLD OF DISCOVERY...
HERE'S WHAT'S INCLUDED:
1.
12 BREAKTHROUGHS IN INTIMACY
- A GUIDED TOUR
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A Guided Journey (You Don’t Have to Overthink)
Twice per week, you’ll receive a short, powerful message delivered directly to your inbox—each one designed to guide you into a simple, meaningful conversation with your partner.
No guessing.
No overthinking.
No need to “figure out where to start.”
👉 You just read…
follow the prompt…
and begin.
WHAT THIS IS FOR
This is for couples who:
• Want a real shift in their intimacy—not just more information
• Feel stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to move forward
• Or want a mature, guided approach to sex and intimacy—designed for real relationships
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
Each breakthrough focuses on a key area most couples never fully understand:
✦ How to have productive, safe conversations about sex
✦ Creating emotional safety and healthy boundaries
✦ Understanding desire, arousal, and how they actually work
✦ Navigating mismatched desire without pressure or shame
✦ The physiology behind performance, stress, and shutdown
✦ How to dissolve shame, frustration, and disconnection
…and more.
WHY THIS WORKS
Because intimacy doesn’t change through pressure—
it changes through understanding, safety, and small intentional steps.
This gives you a clear path forward—together.
($190 value)
2.
BLUEPRINT ASSESSMENT
& REPORTS
✦ The Intimacy Blueprint FULL Assessment ($120 Value)
Discover your Full Intimacy Blueprint and your spouse’s.
✦ Your COMPLETE Personalized Blueprint Profile ($75 Value)
Far deeper than brief description for the quiz. These profiles show Strengths, vulnerabilities, fears, desire patterns, emotional needs, spiritual cues and so much more.
✦ The Marriage Dynamic Map ($50 Value)
See exactly how your two types align, clash, misunderstand, and complete one another.
($245 Total Blueprint Core Value)
3.
THE BLUEPRINT
COMPANION
After completing the 6-week Foundations Journey, you will have access to our blueprint companion. One message per week <10 minutes each (but some exercises could last as long as you want🔥)
ALTERNATING WEEKLY EXERCISES, PROMPTS & SCRIPTS:
First week: Sent to the couple. Short concept description + simple intimacy question practice to do together. ~ 5 minutes
Next week: Separate Private husband/wife tracks designed to surprise your spouse, initiate play, provoke desire, and nurture safety. ~ 5 minutes.
($200 Value)
4.
UNASHAMED INTIMACY
TOOLKIT
Your lifetime intimacy toolkit.
✦ EXPERIENCE ALL 8 BLUEPRINTS THROUGH
THE 8 BLUEPRINTS GUIDED PLAYBOOK
A wild ride with hours of exploration—This is a step-by-step playbook, with scripts and prompts that walk you through each blueprint from initial contact to full expression.
This package includes:
✦ Intimate Conversations Guides
✦ Practices & Exercises
✦ Step-by-Step Blueprint Playbooks
✦ Marriage Dynamic Playbook
($245 Value)
PLUS, AS A FOUNDING MEMBER,
YOU WILL RECEIVE:
PLUS
FOUNDING MEMBER
BENEFITS (Limited-Time)
When you join during our presale, you receive:
✔ Lifetime Access
You will never pay again — all updates and future versions included.
✔ 50% Off Pre-Sale Pricing
Your price today: $97
After launch price: $197–$297
✔ Earliest Access
You get the Blueprint before the public release.
✔ All New Releases First
Every new guide, tool, or update is delivered to you immediately and free.
✔ Founders-Only Sneak Peeks
Behind-the-scenes updates as the Blueprint Types are finalized.
✔ Your Input Shapes the Final Version
Your feedback will help refine the assessment and tools.
Valued at over $800 annually
Lifetime access now yours for onetime payment of $97
Meet Jacob & Kimberly — Your Guides
Married since 1997.
Parents of six Children.
Ordained ministers, counselors, and relationship coaches for over two decades.
But the deepest part of their credibility doesn’t come from their credentials — it comes from their journey.
After years of church planting, pastoring and biblical counseling, Jacob suddenly lost his voice. That single event triggered a painful season that nearly broke them: career shifts, displacement, exhaustion, eventual financial collapse, and emotional strain that left deep marks on their hearts and their marriage.
When stability finally returned, the emotional trauma lingered. In that season, God began a surprising work — starting with Kimberly. Through a series of interactions with God, she experienced a profound rebirth: a total shedding of shame, fear, and old identity. In her own words, “I was born again, again.”
Jacob's rebirth took more time, but before long, they both found themselves married to two new people — and their marriage had to be relearned from the ground up: communication, boundaries, trust, and in particular, intimacy.
As healing took root, something unexpected happened. Their intimacy began to awaken. They felt safer, freer, and more honest than ever before. Trust deepened. Curiosity returned. Their bedroom became a place of discovery rather than pressure. And they noticed something crucial:
Their sexual responses were revealing where healing had taken place…
and where healing was still needed.
Desire, shutdown, openness, avoidance — all of it was speaking.
Their sexuality had become a map of spiritual and emotional renewal.
Over time, intimacy became tender, responsive, playful, joyful, and deeply alive. They experienced a type of connection that far surpassed their honeymoon years — even after decades of marriage, six kids, and the constant pressures of a very busy life.
They discovered a truth:
Sexual frustration is never just about sex
— it’s the heart trying to speak.
It reveals identity, fear, longing, and where the heart is deeply needing to be met.
This revelation changed everything.
God designed covenant sexuality to unlock hidden truths, restore innocence, and bring profound healing to the soul.
The Intimacy Blueprint was born from this journey — not simply as a course to “improve your sex life,” but as a God-designed pathway where the deepest longings of the heart are met through covenant intimacy.
This is why we created the Intimacy Blueprint.
Everything Changes When You Understand Your Blueprint
Instead of Guessing, You'll Finally Know:
▸ Your intimacy type—and your spouse’s
▸ What truly opens your desire (and what shuts it down)
▸ What your spouse needs (and why)
▸ How to create real connection without pressure
This isn’t about trying harder.
It’s about finally understanding what’s been there all along.
FAQs
Is this explicit?
No. It is honest, biblical, trauma-informed, and respectful — never crude. There are no sexual images or nudity, but it does educate in detail about God's design for amazing covenantal sexuality, arousal and desire between a husband and wife.
Is this faith based?
These principals are universal. Whether you are a born-again Christian, an atheist, or something else, as long as you are open minded, and don't mind our references to God's design, you should be able to relate to all of it.
What if our sex life is “fine”?
Then this course will help you experience deeper passion, connection, and joy.
Is it safe for couples who feel fragile?
Yes — safety, pacing, and emotional grounding are built into the entire journey. We always encourage you to go at a pace you feel comfortable with.
Can we do it individually?
Yes — individual learning still transforms the marriage but partners will usually join after they see your assessment results.
What if intimacy is painful, rare, or stressful?
This Blueprint helps create clarity, safety, and healing without pressure.
Will this create pressure?
No. The course begins by laying a framework for safety and pacing, and these are both built into the entire process as a foundation.
YOUR INTIMACY DOESN’T
HAVE TO STAY HERE
Intimacy was never meant to feel:
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confusing
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pressured
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distant
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or out of reach
It was designed to feel:
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safe
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alive
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meaningful
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deeply connected
And for many couples…
> this is the moment everything starts to make sense.
You don’t need more effort.
You need understanding.
And once you have it—everything changes.
This is where clarity begins.
Unlock Your Full Intimacy Blueprint
Try the Blueprint completely risk-free. If you don’t experience real clarity and progress after completion, we’ll give you a full refund. No questions asked.
COURSES: Individual Wholeness | Marriage Wholeness | Sexual Wholeness
NOTE: Jacob is a Pastoral Counselor and Marriage Coach.
Coaching courses are not therapy; consult professionals for therapy needs.
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