The Wholeness Method
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Personal Wholeness Lesson 01
The TWO Identities:
Separated or Connected



Facilitator's Objective:
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To help participants recognize the difference between operating out of ego's past or future and operating out of Love's present.

Suggested Session Process
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Greet the participant(s) and take a moment to pray for your time together. ~4 minutes
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Tell them your plan for the meeting: ~1 minute
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Recap the lesson and ask them what they thought, making sure they understood the major concepts. ~5-10 min (Check paragraph titles for quick reference on the major points)
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Go through their answers to the lesson’s application questions. ~ 10-20 minutes (The questions they are supposed to answer can be seen below the lesson transcript).
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Lead them through the exercise found below the questions on this page. ~40-75 minutes (They should be prepared and supplied for the exercise before you meet - so you will need to message them the prior week if the exercise requires them to bring anything.)
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When the session ends, pray, schedule the next session, and say your goodbyes (~2 minutes)
On this page you will find the lesson video, followed by application questions and then a suggested prayer. At the bottom you will find a written transcript of the video content should you prefer the content in written form.
LESSON 01 TRANSCRIPT
The Two Identities:
SEPARATED or CONNECTED
THE LIE
Long ago, before our time or even that of our ancestors, humanity was infected with a lie—the lie of separation. The story of good versus evil goes back to the beginning of time and rages on to this day. Just about every major ancient tradition revolves around this idea of the two dueling systems of right versus wrong, good versus evil or order versus chaos. We can see the evil side portrayed by the Serpent of Judeo, Christian, and Islamic traditions, Mara in the Buddhist tradition, Maya in the Hindu tradition, or the illusion of duality in the Taoist tradition. The Bible tells us that this deception originated in the Garden of Eden when we were tricked into questioning our connection to our Creator, believing we were separate from Him, unlike Him, and cast out from His provision and protection. Detached from our true identity as the treasured children of God and brothers and sisters within One big family, we were driven by fear to invent our own divided identities—and thus the ego was born, and with it perpetual war. This war continues to rage on to this day, playing out in nations, neighborhoods, and families.
THE TWO IDENTITIES
1 Corinthians 15:21-22 speaks of these two opposing systems when it says, “For since death came through a man, the resurrection of the dead comes also through a man. For as in Adam all die, so in Christ all will be made alive.” In this passage, we see the two operating systems identified. “Adam” represents the lower operating system of “ego,” or “sin nature” and Christ represents the higher operating system of love which is our true nature. The sin nature, or ego, operates from the belief that we enter life independent and disconnected, alone in a fight for survival against all “others” and in fear of all “others”, while the mind of Christ operates from the belief that we are all intentionally placed in this world as vital members of One larger body. The lower perspective is the root source of all war, sickness and suffering, the higher perspective is the root source of all peace, health and prosperity. Every story in the Bible offers examples of the dueling systems and the consequences of each.
THE SIN NATURE COMES FROM A "SEPARATED SELF"
Our sin nature or ego is the identity we each create to deal with the fear and anxiety that result from believing ourselves separate, disconnected and insecure in relationship to those around us. The ego drives us to treat everything as a threat, whether subtly or outright, as if we were perpetually in a fight for survival. Yet, this separation is a falsehood—a distortion that obscures the truth of our inherent oneness with God and each other. You might think you do not suffer from ego’s delusion but you do. You can’t help it. Everyone is born with it. Romans 3:23 says, “all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.” This means everyone operates out of the lower egocentric identity. We can’t help it. This tendency is in our genes. The only escape is to be born again to a new reality— a Christ conscious one.
EGO IS THE SMALL SEPARATED SELF
The ancient Greeks were another civilization who taught about the lie of separation. The term “ego” itself comes from the ancient Greek philosophers who defined it as, “the small separated self.” In other words, it is an identity built on the idea that you are a small isolated life form, who exists in autonomy, alone and in contrast to others, by yourself. This is in comparison to a larger sense of identity, which is that although you are completely unique, you are a reflection and manifestation of the Creator, and One in Him, along with the rest of creation, all playing a special role through the connections you have to each other member of His body. It is the belonging you share within His body that defines your highest purpose and where you will find your true identity.
EGO SEES EVERYTHING AS A THREAT
As we transition from a smaller, isolated and disconnected position of insecurity, to a larger, united and connected position of security, we will tend to create peace and prosperity wherever we go. The larger your sense of oneness is, the more connected you will feel, and the less of your existence you will feel you are at war with. The less you feel the threat of war, the less defensive you will have to be and the less you will react to things that your ego would otherwise see as a threat. When your identity is large, and you see yourself as one with those around you, you cannot be at war with them, it would be like going to war against your own body, like your arm declaring war with your foot. When you have the Christ-conscious identity, even if a dispute comes up among you, you are not threatened, because the big You is outside of the realm of threat. Disputes only threaten divided identities. Nothing is a threat to love, because love sees others as itself. That is why Jesus tells us, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” - Matthew 22:39 (ESV). He is teaching us how Love thinks. Love is not insecure, nor is it threatened. You don’t need to defend your small separated self, because there is no small separated self—and by this behavior you disarm the egos in those around you and bring peace.
SIN NATURE IS THE BELIEF THAT YOU ARE SEPARATED FROM EVERYTHING ELSE
Aloneness is a lie. We are not alone. You are not detached from God, you are within Him, and you always have been, and you always will be. There is no sin so great that could remove you from Him—except in your own mind. The root of all sin is the idea of separation. When ego thinks of sin, it thinks of law and punishment, which is delivered by further separation. When the righteous think of sin, they think of sickness and healing, which is delivered by closeness and connection. Sin is not part of some legal system, it is part of a broken system. Jesus was the friend of sinners. He drew near to them, showing God’s real opinion. The scriptures teach us “the laying on of hands.” The only way to heal sin is by reversing aloneness— through nearness, association and touch. The revelation of the gospel is that you are not alone. You are not detached from Him, you are within Him, and you always have been, and you always will be. Nothing can separate you from God’s love (Rom. 8:38-39). There is no sin so great that could remove you from Him—except temporarily in your own imagination. The root of all sin is the very idea of separation. The scriptures tell us that ALL things were made “in Him,” and there is nothing that exists outside of Him. Nothing!
Psalm 137:7-8 says, “Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.”
Colossians 1:16-17 says, “For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through him and for him. He is before all things, and in him all things hold together.”
John 1:3-4 says, “Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.”
SEPARATION IS AN ILLUSION
The only separation that exists is within your imagination. We are not even remotely alone. We are not even remotely separate. We are each seated within an all-loving and all-powerful being from which we can never be removed. Realising this is the foundation for all emotional health, wholeness and relational harmony. In even the closest of relationships, the root of all problems is the thought, “I am alone and must fend for myself.” Regardless of your circumstances, you play a vital role within His being. We need you to be the best version of yourself and you need each one of us to do the same. When we fail to do so we hurt the whole.
INSECURITY COMES FROM EGO
When we see through the Adamic lens of separation, we are automatically utterly insecure, treating others as threats and seeking wholeness outside of Christ. This counterfeit system lures us into codependencies, where we seek security and identity from individuals, institutions, and ideologies instead of Christ. Such codependencies are destined for disappointment as they do not cure the sickness of separation. They only breed group-division, justifying judgments and prejudice against “outsiders.” These ideologies can even overrule love between husbands and wives or parents and children. A crucial shift comes when you choose to stop seeing “others” as part of your problem instead seeing them as part of God’s solution to your real problem—aloneness. Those who surround you are your only opportunity to achieve God’s purpose for your life. Love is the only thing that can rescue you from the dysfunction of ego. Our true identity is that we all play vital roles in each other and in Christ. By embracing wholeness, we reject the illusion of all separations and live by the law of love, even for our enemies (Matt. 5:44).
EGO ONLY EXISTS IN PERCEPTION
Now, you might be questioning the idea of losing yourself to Oneness. We don't blame you. The thought of losing yourself can be scary—but we are not asking you to lose your real identity, only your imaginary one. Your real self might still be locked away in an illusion of separation, but by freeing it, you will finally be able to live without fear. Ego only exists in perception—it is not reality. Your sin-nature is your own invention, not God’s. It is an invention you created, not from inspiration, but from separation and desperation. For this reason, the ego’s entire viewpoint is skewed. It interprets everything through a lens of self survival—even love. Within this broken system, the mind sees resources as scarce and others as competition so it obsesses over strategies of how to survive and win. Everything ego does only serves these made up strategies of survival. Your love is conditional, Your relationships transactional, and you justify using others if it supports your gain. The only way out is to let the whole system of ego die.
"For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it." - Matthew 16:25 (NIV):
THE DEVIL WANTS YOUR EGO TO RULE
Many Christians think the devil wants our worship and obedience—not quite. The satanic system teaches you to separate yourself and obey only yourself—“Do what thou wilt is the whole of the law.” This is the singular commandment of Satanism. In Greek, “devil” (diabolos) comes from two root words, dia (through) and bolos (to cast). “Devil” means to cast through or divide. While Christ-consciousness is Oneness, devil-consciousness is division. Believing in a separated self is “sin” at its core—not just bad actions, but living by the satanic identity: the ego. The Bible teaches us that we inherited the lie of exile and separation from Adam and Eve. That lie is the exile. By believing this lie, we are not only driven to invent our own egos, but to project egos onto those closest to us, especially God, imagining them as adversarial, judgmental, or competing against us—instead of One with us, in love with us, and on our side. But God has no ego—God is Love, and Love is our link to the truth beyond the illusion. This truth is a source of healing, just as it says in Acts 10:38, “God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and power, and how he went around doing good and healing all who were under the power of the devil...” Christ came to awaken humanity out of the deception: He revealed we are not alone, not cast out, and that He has bound our fates eternally together with His. Christ-consciousness restores our awareness of divine unity, dismantling the ego’s lies and healing the wounds of separation.
“For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit.” - 1 Corinthians 12:12-13 (ESV)
"CHRIST" AS AN IDENTITY
The title “Christ” is not Jesus’ last name. The term “Christ” comes from the Greek “Christos”, meaning “Anointed One.” This title is not only used for Jesus of Nazareth, but is used to describe the Holy Spirit. that Jesus poured out upon all of creation after His resurrection. The Holy Spirit is Christ-consciousness poured out upon all creation (John 16:8). He offers a permanent reconnection to God, which is the antidote for the disease of ego. 1 John 2:27 (NASB) says, “And as for you, the anointing [chrism] which you received from Him remains in you, and you have no need for anyone to teach you; but as His anointing [chrism] teaches you about all things, and is true and is not a lie, and just as it has taught you, you remain in Him.” Christ is an identity and a consciousness that we can “remain in” or depart from. We can choose to identify with Adam, as a separate, fearful being, or we can choose to identify with Christ, as a connected loving being. Just as Christ is “the Anointed One”, we are also “anointed ones”, or more accurately, “One in the Anointing.” That is why the Bible calls us “the Body of Christ.” When Jesus walked the earth in the flesh, filled with the Spirit (Luke 4:14), He was the body of Christ. But when He was about to ascend to heaven, He told His disciples it was better for them if He left, because then He could transfer the Spirit to them (John 16:7) so they could become the body of Christ. We are the physical manifestation of the “Chrism” just as Jesus Himself is whenever He operates in bodily form.
“This is good, and it is pleasing in the sight of God our Savior, who desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.” - 1 Timothy 2:3-4 (ESV)
BEING SAVED IS BEING MADE WHOLE
In this passage, the word “saved” comes from the Greek sōzō, which can be translated “made whole.” Being “saved” is not as much about what happens in the future when you die, but about the operating system you choose to live by in the present. Those who have been made whole can no longer think of themselves from the small separated self because they have been awakened to the truth of their larger identity of wholeness in Christ. This is what Jesus calls being “born again,” and this is why we have named this course “the Wholeness Method.” We start the Wholeness Method here, with the revelation of the two opposing operating systems; One that manifests peace and life, and the other that manifests war and death.
Copywrite (C) Jacob Reeve 2024
Lesson 01
Life Application
Questions
1. Do you see others as included in Christ, or do you think some can exist outside of Christ?
2. Reflect on a moment you treated someone as a threat rather than part of God’s solution to your aloneness. How can you shift to seeing them as part of your oneness, and what’s one way to show love to them today?
3. What fears or insecurities drive your sense of separation (e.g., “I’m not enough”)? How can embracing your identity in Christ help you replace these with love’s truth, and what’s a practical step to practice this shift?
4. Do you really truly believe that “nothing can separate you from the love of God (Romans 8:38-39)? Are there instances in your own life that cause you to doubt God’s love and constant connection to you?
5. In what ways has the ego's fearful perspective of separation affected your marriage or family?
Suggested Prayer
"Father, I recognize the error of my ego and my tendency to treat you and others as a threat to my life instead of the substance of my life. I recognize the fear and insecurity that my imagined isolation generates and I surrender now to Your infinite love. Holy Spirit, guide me to embrace my true identity in Christ, rejecting aloneness and choosing connection with You and others. Transform my heart to live in Your oneness, loving others as myself. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

FACILITATOR LED EXERCISE 02:
The River of Time, Past, Present & Future
INTRODUCTION:
The sin-nature pulls us into past regrets or future fears, stealing our ability to live in the present where love exists. Christ-consciousness is always present and always connected. This facilitator-led exercise uses a time river to help you understand how your focus and energy change when looking at yourself from the past, present and future.
NEEDED:
Masking tape or string to mark a timeline on the floor; paper and pens for each participant; a loved one (spouse or friend) present; timer; pen and paper for facilitator notes; optional: scripture cards with Psalm 137:7–8, John 1:3–4, Matthew 22:39, 1 Corinthians 12:12–13.
STEPS:
BEING STILL AND WELCOMING HOLY SPIRIT:
The facilitator begins: “Make yourself comfortable, stand in a circle, and take three slow deep breaths, as slow as you can.” As you breathe, pray: “Holy Spirit, as we breathe in, we thank You for Your eternal presence. Lead us now, on behalf of Christ we pray, amen”
The facilitator shares: “Ego’s past and future pull us away, but Christ’s presence anchors us. This “time river” exercise will help us see what steals our presence.”
SET UP THE TIME RIVER:
The facilitator instructs: “Before we get into the exercise, we will need you to set up the time river (if they are joining virtually). You’ll need some masking tape or anything else that might help you mark a timeline on the floor. On one end you label it “the past,” on the opposite end, “the future,” and in the middle, “the present.” It can even just be three pieces of paper with those words written on them.
LOOK AT THE PAST FROM THE PRESENT:
The facilitator guides: “Now, I want you to start by standing in the Present, and looking at the Past. Now close your eyes and in your mind, travel through the story of your past. What stands out? What are the dominant themes? What are the primary emotions you feel when looking at your past? I want you to reflect silently for a minute or two and write down what you experience.”
LOOK AT THE FUTURE FROM THE PRESENT:
The facilitator guides: “Now, eyes open and staying in the Present, I want you to turn around and look into the Future. Now close your eyes again and forecast yourself 20 years in the future. Who do you expect you’ll look like there? Are you happy or sad? Lonely or surrounded by loved ones? What are your expectations? What emotions do you feel when looking at yourself in the future? I want you to reflect silently for a minute or two and write down what you experience.”
PICTURE YOUR PAST SELF:
The facilitator guides: “Now, I want you to turn around again and picture your younger self; ten, fifteen, or twenty years back. What were your concerns? What were you focused on? What were your obsessions? What emotions were you feeling? (Pause)
Now I want you to picture your current self going and embracing your past self. What do you wish you could tell them? How would you comfort them? What advice would you give them? (Pause)
Now I want you to reflect on your interaction, was there a theme? Like relationships, finances, or health, or something else? (Wait for a yes or no, if yes, continue here, if no, skip to next paragraph) Yes? Why do you think this theme is your main focus? What do you think is the main fear behind it? Do you think this theme, or fear, could be something that has stolen your present throughout your life?” (Pause to let them take notes)
PICTURE YOUR FUTURE SELF:
The facilitator guides: “Now I want you to picture your future self, twenty or thirty years from now, looking back at you today in the Present. What do you say to your current self? What emotions do you feel? What does your future self see as important? How do you see the state of your current self?” (Pause and wait a minute or two for them to write anything they experience)
RETURN TO THE PRESENT AND NOTICE DISTRACTIONS:
The facilitator guides: “Now I want you to come back to the Present. I want you to write down anytime a distraction enters your mind that takes your mind off the present, okay?”
“Now I want you to become fully aware of your senses in this present moment. Fully emerse yourself in the experience of now. See how the light reflects off the objects in the room, the beauty all around you. Hear how the soundwaves enter and reverberate within your ears. Experience the smells in your nose, and the taste in your mouth. Now run your fingers along some part of your body, an arm, a leg, your stomach, your chest, your head. Focus one hundred percent on the present. Escape all else.” (Participants reflect silently for a minute or two, writing down any distractions that enter their mind.)
The facilitator prompts: “Now I want you to feel the room and the presence of the Holy Spirit in this place. Feel Him as the Breath that fills your lungs, the Source of your heart’s beating, and the Light that makes all things visible. He is present now, He is perfect medicine, He is wholeness and health, He is light and life. He is the Love that Created you.” (Pause)
FOCUS ON YOUR LOVED ONE IN THE PRESENT:
The facilitator guides: “Now, I want you to turn and place your full consciousness on your spouse or friend, (whichever is present). Put your entire focus on them. See them in the Spirit. Let your entire consciousness be consumed by their presence. Notice their skin, their hair, their posture, their breath, and now look into their eyes. See them as deeply as possible. Shed your ego, let them see into you without reservation, without walls, without limitation.” (Notice their body language. Some will struggle here.)
“If you are having a hard time with this, I want you to identify it. What is preventing you from being fully present with them? What is preventing this intimacy? What is the fear behind it? What is the perception behind it? Are you threatened? Why are you guarding yourself? Is it something that happened in the past preventing you from fully giving your heart to love in the present? You don’t have to answer out loud yet, but I want you to write down what you are feeling.” (Pause and let them work this out if they are being touched)
“Now can you see the wall that you have put up? Or is it something else that is blocking intimacy? What do you see there between you and your (spouse or friend)? (Pause)
Do you want to keep this wall up, or are you willing to let it come down? Even if just for one minute, to experience your partner fully in the present without the past? (wait for them to answer, if they agree, then continue, if not skip to the next paragraph)
“Jesus, we give you permission to remove this wall (or whatever it is) around (participant’s) heart. Let them now have conscious control over this wall, erecting it or removing it at will from now on.” (Pause a few seconds)
“Now (participant), is the wall down? Yes? Okay, then allow your partner in. Let them look into your eyes, hold nothing back from them right now. Let no wound from the past, or fear about the future restrict you from seeing them through the eyes of complete surrender to Love. See them how Christ sees them. See them without flaw, just for a moment. Give yourself permission to see their existence as a total miracle of God, and as a perfect masterpiece. Take your time.” (Pause and give adequate time)
SHARE AND PRAY:
The facilitator guides: “How are y’all doing? Do you want to write anything down? (If so, pause)
“Let's talk about what you experienced during this time. It’s okay if you didn’t get much, sometimes people really are impacted by this, and sometimes it doesn't really affect them. What would you say are your biggest takeaways? (Take notes to keep in their file)
When they are done sharing you can offer a closing prayer.
FACILITATOR NOTES:
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Create a safe space, validating vulnerability. If breakthrough escalates, let it lead the session. Take time to go as the Spirit leads.
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Remember to schedule and prepare for the next meeting before saying goodbyes.
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Ensure the timeline is safe to walk. Offer seated reflection if mobility is an issue.
Copywrite (C) Jacob Reeve 2024