
THE 4-KEYS MARRIAGE
ASSESSMENT
See how you score in the four proven qualities found in the happiest & strongest marriages
The most recent studies* suggest
first-time marriages today will fall into
ONE of THREE CATEGORIES: ​​​​​​​​
~40% ARE DESTINED FOR DIVORCE
~40% WILL STAY MARRIED, BUT NOT FLOURISHING
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~20% ​WILL BE FLOURISHING
SOURCES: These percentages are rounded, research-based estimates derived from several studies examining the projected lifetime risk of divorce, long-term marital-happiness trajectories, and the characteristics of Vitalized, Harmonious, and flourishing marriages. They represent a synthesis of the research rather than the findings of any single study. Sources Bailey, G., Stone, L., & Wilcox, W. B. (2025). Divorce in Decline: About 40% of Today’s Marriages Will End in Divorce. Institute for Family Studies. View source Wilcox, W. B., Stone, L., & Bailey, G. (2025). Is Marriage Back? Divorce Is Down, Family Stability Is Up. American Enterprise Institute. View source Kamp Dush, C. M., Taylor, M. G., & Kroeger, R. A. (2008). Marital happiness and psychological well-being across the life course. Family Relations, 57(2), 211–226. View study record Olson, D. H., & Fowers, B. J. (1993). Five types of marriage: An empirical typology based on ENRICH. The Family Journal, 1(3), 196–207. View study DOI Galovan, A. M., Carroll, J. S., Schramm, D. G., Leonhardt, N. D., Zuluaga, J., McKenadel, S. E. M., & Oleksuik, M. R. (2022). Satisfaction or connectivity? Implications from the Strong Relationality Model of flourishing couple relationships. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 48(3), 883–907. View study record
WANT TO KNOW THE SECRET OF THE "FLOURISHING" TOP 20%?
1. THEY EACH TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN HEALTH & HAPPINESS
(Instead of needing their partner to do it)
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2. THEY LEARN TO SOOTHE EACH OTHER'S NERVOUS SYSTEMS (Instead of triggering them)
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3. THEY MANAGE STRESS & CONFLICT PRODUCTIVELY (Instead of destructively)​
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4. THEY INTENTIONALLY INVEST IN SHARED ACTIVITIES & FUN. (Instead of neglecting fun)
The Flourishing Top 20% Share
FOUR Relational Habits.​
​GREAT RELATIONSHIPS are not a matter of random chance or luck. They are the fruit of these FOUR relational habits. The GOOD NEWS is that these habits are largely TEACHABLE!​​
Want to see where you stand in these 4-KEY areas?
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For over two decades, we’ve helped couples master the habits that make marriages thrive. Along the way, we’ve created simple tools to help you gain clarity and grow with confidence.
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One of our favorites is the 4-KEYS Marriage Assessment.
In just a few minutes, you’ll receive a personalized report showing where your marriage is strongest and which areas offer the greatest opportunity for growth.
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It just takes around 5-10 minutes! ​
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