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THE 4-KEYS MARRIAGE
ASSESSMENT
See how you score in the four proven qualities found in the happiest & strongest marriages
The most recent studies* suggest
first-time marriages today will fall into
ONE of THREE CATEGORIES:
- 40% ARE DESTINED FOR DIVORCE
- 20% WILL STAY MARRIED, BUT NOT HAPPILY
- 40% WILL BE "VERY HAPPILY MARRIED"
* Wilcox, B., Stone, L., & Bailey, G. (2025). Is Marriage Back? Divorce Is Down, Family Stability Is Up. American Enterprise Institute. , *B. (2023). Divorce in Decline: About 40% of Today’s Marriages Will End in Divorce. Institute for Family Studies. *Kamp Dush, C. M., Taylor, M. K., & Kroeger, R. A. (2008). Marital Happiness and Psychological Well-Being Across the Life Course. Family Relations, 57(2), 211–226.
WANT TO KNOW THE SECRET OF THE "VERY HAPPY" 40%?
1. THEY MAKE EACH OTHER FEEL CONNECTED & SECURE
2. THEY MANAGE STRESS & CONFLICT PRODUCTIVELY
3. THEY PRIORITIZE INDEPENDENT PSYCHOLOGICAL HEALTH
4. THEY HAVE FUN TOGETHER
The Very Happy 40% Share FOUR Relational Habits.
GREAT RELATIONSHIPS are not a matter of random chance or luck. They are the fruit of these FOUR relational habits. The GOOD NEWS is that these habits are largely TEACHABLE!
Want to see where you stand in these 4-KEY areas?
For over two decades, we’ve helped couples master the habits that make marriages thrive. Along the way, we’ve created simple tools to help you gain clarity and grow with confidence.
One of our favorites is the 4-KEYS Marriage Assessment.
In just a few minutes, you’ll receive a personalized report showing where your marriage is strongest and which areas offer the greatest opportunity for growth.
This assessment was once part of our Married Couples Toolbox, but we’re now offering it directly to the public—for free—to help as many couples as possible.
It's totally FREE and just takes around 5-10 minutes!
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