The Wholeness Method
Biblical & Neuroscience-Based Marriage Transformation
THE 4-KEYS MARRIAGE
ASSESSMENT
See how you score in the four proven qualities found in the happiest & strongest marriages
The most recent studies* suggest
first-time marriages today will fall into
ONE of THREE CATEGORIES: ​​​​​​​​
- 40% ARE DESTINED FOR DIVORCE
- 20% WILL STAY MARRIED, BUT NOT HAPPILY
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- 40% ​WILL BE "VERY HAPPILY MARRIED"
* Wilcox, B., Stone, L., & Bailey, G. (2025). Is Marriage Back? Divorce Is Down, Family Stability Is Up. American Enterprise Institute. ​, *B. (2023). Divorce in Decline: About 40% of Today’s Marriages Will End in Divorce. Institute for Family Studies. *Kamp Dush, C. M., Taylor, M. K., & Kroeger, R. A. (2008). Marital Happiness and Psychological Well-Being Across the Life Course. Family Relations, 57(2), 211–226.
WANT TO KNOW THE SECRET OF THE "VERY HAPPY" 40%?
1. THEY MAKE EACH OTHER FEEL CONNECTED & SECURE
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2. THEY MANAGE STRESS & CONFLICT PRODUCTIVELY
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3. THEY PRIORITIZE INDEPENDENT PSYCHOLOGICAL HEALTH
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4. THEY HAVE FUN TOGETHER
The Very Happy 40% Share FOUR Relational Habits.​
​GREAT RELATIONSHIPS are not a matter of random chance or luck. They are the fruit of these FOUR relational habits. The GOOD NEWS is that these habits are largely TEACHABLE!​​
Want to see where you stand in these 4-KEY areas?
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For over two decades, we’ve helped couples master the habits that make marriages thrive. Along the way, we’ve created simple tools to help you gain clarity and grow with confidence.
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One of our favorites is the 4-KEYS Marriage Assessment.
In just a few minutes, you’ll receive a personalized report showing where your marriage is strongest and which areas offer the greatest opportunity for growth.
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This assessment was once part of our Married Couples Toolbox, but we’re now offering it directly to the public—for free—to help as many couples as possible.
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It's totally FREE and just takes around 5-10 minutes! ​
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Coaching courses are not therapy; consult professionals for therapy needs.
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