The Wholeness Method
Scripture-Rooted. Neuroscience-Informed.
Designed for Real Connection.
FAQS
WHAT IS THE WHOLENESS METHOD AND HOW CAN IT HELP ME? We are a para-church organization on a mission to equip individuals, couples counselors and churches with the most powerful tools for helping, healing and empowering families. The wholeness method offers a framework for counseling and life transformation for those who are seeking spiritual, emotional and relational wholeness. We currently have three primary resources and a fourth on the way; The Wholeness Method for Individuals, and The Wholeness Method for Couples, and The Wholeness Method Facilitators Membership. The course for individuals is perfect for those who want to understand more about how their psyche works, why they might be experiencing negative thought patterns, or negative relational patterns and how to heal emotional wounds and dysfunctions. The course for couples educates couples on the 12 most critical measures of a healthy, thriving relationship. The course is interactive with questions and activation exercises throughout each chapter, making it a perfect tool for couples to use to initiate the vital conversations they need to have for growth, intimacy and connection. The facilitator's membership gives counselors and group leaders access to each lesson’s step by step guides, assessments and other tools of transformation and can be used for sessions with individuals, couples or groups. The step by step guides assist facilitators in conducting powerful sessions using guided conversation, visualization, spiritual interaction, prayerful listening and other methods of self discovery, family discovery, and God discovery. Facilitator training: Coming soon. You can go through the courses on your own, with a partner, with a counselor, or as a group. They are self paced, but we highly recommend making a one-lesson-per-week commitment for best results.
WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN THE TWO COURSES? The simple answer is that one of them focuses on personal internal wholeness, and the other one focuses on relational wholeness between two people. However, the wholeness method for individuals would be greatly beneficial for everyone, especially couples, and the 12 relational principles found in the Wholeness Method for marriage and family are certainly useful for individuals, as it applies to all relationships, not just marriages. Let me clarify further: In counseling, I have come to classify relationships into two very useful categories. The first category is what I would call a secure relationship. A secure relationship is one where the couple can talk and even disagree freely, having challenging conversations and be open to constructive criticism without triggering defense mechanisms from deeper wounds or unresolved conflict that would prevent conversations from being constructive. The second category you might have guessed is what we would call an “insecure relationship.” In this relationship it is very hard for the couple to have challenging conversations and receive constructive criticism without one or both partners being triggered to a degree that would sabotage any relational progress that might be made. So we approach these two types of relationships in a totally different manner. For the insecure relationship, we recommend the individuals within the relationship first do the individual work of healing and wholeness within themselves so that they can get to a place of peace, wholeness and security that enables them to begin engaging in difficult conversations and hearing constructive criticism without getting triggered and falling into counter-productivity. For secure relationships, we might recommend they jump straight into understanding the 12 critical concepts and conversations all couples must have for a healthy and thriving relationship. The reason so many couples get stuck in stagnate patterns is because they don’t know how to address just a handful of critical questions that remain just beneath the surface of their stagnation. It’s only after and through these conversations that you can truly know yourself, as well as your partner and together, mature deeply in security, intimacy and connection. Between you and the very best relationships that you can have with your spouse, your children or anyone, even God, there are about a dozen honest conversations you must have with them each year. The problem is that most couples are avoiding these conversations either out of fear, or they just don’t know to approach them. That’s where we can help. The first key to a permanent thriving union is overcoming the fear of honest dialogue, and knowing how to initiate the specific conversations that need to happen without triggering defense mechanisms. The “wholeness method for individuals” aims to heal souls from the brokenness that continues to prevent free speech, deep connection and secure attachment from happening. The wholeness method for marriage and family leads couples through the 12 most crucial conversations they must face for a thriving union. If you are into self discovery, please join us!
HOW MUCH DOES THE MEMBERSHIP COST AND WHAT DOES IT INCLUDE? Right now, it is $99 per course membership. Membership in either course gets you access to all the tools and assessments we have available. Our goal is to continuously be adding to and improving our incredible suite of tools and resources for self discovery so we will updating resources regularly. You will also be put on our members email list and be notified whenever there is any news, group events or content drops.
CAN I ACCESS THE COURSES AT ANY TIME? Once you become a member you can access the content 24/7, allowing flexible learning at your own pace. That said, we highly recommend scheduling a 60-90 minute session each week until your course is done. This should allow enough time to understand each concept, answer the application questions and discuss it with others if you choose to.
IS THERE A REFUND POLICY IF I AM NOT SATISFIED? YES! There is a seven day money back guarantee if you are not satisfied for any reason. After that you can cancel the membership at any time if you don't want to continue annually.
ARE THE COURSES SUITABLE FOR BEGINNERS, NON-CHRISTIANS, OR THOSE NEW TO SPIRITUALITY? Yes! Although we use scripture throughout, there is no previous knowledge required. The concepts are universally applicable to all people, regardless of their background or belief systems.
HOW DO I SIGN UP AND GET STARTED? Just go to the “memberships” page and click on which course fits you best. It will prompt you to fill out your information and only takes a few minutes to complete the whole process.
WILL I RECEIVE COACHING DURING THE COURSE? Individuals and couples can go through it on their own but they may opt to have a counselor or group leader guide them through it for added impact. We will also be offering a “Wholeness facilitators resource hub” that includes a powerful list of resources and step by step session guides that will help facilitators offer life changing interactions with their clients or groups. Beyond that, as we grow, we will be dedicated to developing our support, community forums, or coaching options for our community.
DOES THE BOOK COME WITH THE COURSE? Each lesson includes a digital version of the corresponding book chapter for that lesson. If you would rather have a physical book, you will have to purchase it separately.
HOW LONG IS THE COURSE AND WHAT IS THE TIME COMMITMENT? We have designed the courses so that major concepts can be grasped quickly but we also offer the full length concepts in multiple forms. Videos will usually be under 20 minutes, Reading entire lessons will usually take about 30 minutes, and answering application questions likely extending that by another 30 minutes or longer. Audio versions will be available soon so that will be another option. So if you are just reading through the content on your own or watching the videos, it should take under 30 minutes per lesson, but if you are going through it with a partner, counselor or group, it will likely take an hour or even two per lesson. There are 12 lessons per course so if you scheduled yourself to go through once per week, you could schedule a 90 minute session once a week for three months to complete the course. We recommend making a scheduled commitment and even if you are doing the course for individuals, finding a friend or group to do it with you if possible. ITs effect is magnified when you have someone to process with, answer the questions with and discuss, as well as for the added accountability.
WHAT IF I AM WILLING BUT MY PARTNER IS NOT? For you we would recommend going through the Wholeness Method for Individuals. This will help you to understand yourself during this time as well as your partner, and how to approach them in this situation.
WHAT IF MY MARRIAGE NEEDS MORE INTERVENTION OR IF I AM IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP? If you are in danger of any bodily harm we are so sorry! We recommend you seek help as quickly and safely as possible from your local authorities. If you are not in danger, but your relationship needs serious intervention, we recommend you reach out to professionals in your own local community. That said, the truths found in these books and courses will only help you gain psychological, spiritual and relational understanding to help you navigate whichever situation you might find yourself in.
HOW CAN I BECOME A FACILITATOR AND GET ACCESS TO THE EXERCISES AND RESOURCES FOR LEADING OTHERS? We offer facilitators step by step guides for leading people through powerful interactive sessions of self discovery for each of the 24 lessons (12 per course). We are committed to developing an ever growing and improving list of resources that are designed for counselors, therapists, ministry leaders and churches to help bring lasting transformation to individuals and families. You can currently gain access to our facilitators resources by signing up for the facilitator’s membership on the memberships page (if it is shown). If it is not shown, it means it is being updated.
ABOUT THE FOUNDERS
Founders Jacob and Kimberly Reeve have been counseling couples for over 25 years. As a couple, they have owned and managed several small businesses, planted and pastored three church communities, and raised six children.
Jacob has gained tools from many institutions, including the Gottman Institute, Southern Christian University, and Calvary Chapel Bible College, among others. He has also learned from several highly gifted mentors. Ordained by three different church organizations, he and Kimberly have launched multiple ministries, leading church communities and schools of discipleship in four California cities. Jacob is the author of several books and training courses, including titles like The Great Procession, Ancient Hebrew Culture, and The School of Jesus.
What you don’t see from his list of accomplishments are the things that truly develop character and perspective. Jacob and Kimberly have overcome deep betrayals, severe trials and brutal regrets to uncover a path of forgiveness, healing and abundance of life. Jacob and Kimberly consider their family their greatest achievement. As of this writing, they have been married nearly thirty years. Despite the trials and tribulations, they have discovered the secret on how to grow year by year in their admiration, adoration and enjoyment of each other while earning the love and respect of their children.
In recent years, Jacob has stepped into a broader calling to partner and equip communities and churches to win the war that is raging against healthy marriages and individuals by bringing education, awareness and Christ-centered encounters to as many families and communities as possible.
"We are on a mission to help people unlock the ultimate pleasure and purpose of their relationships.
"It's difficult to find anything with greater potential to improve your life than an investment in your marriage, and it's equally difficult to find anything more personally destructive than when you don't. Your marriage impacts every portion of your life. If your marriage suffers, your life suffers. If your marriage thrives, your life thrives. There are few things that can impact you to such a degree..." - Jacob Reeve