The Wholeness Method
Biblical & Neuroscience-Based Marriage Transformation
MARRIAGE RENEWAL COURSE
The Connected Marriage
A biblical + neuroscience backed path to restore closeness, safety, and unity in your marriage.
BUILD A MARRIAGE THAT FEELS CLOSE, SAFE, & CONNECTED AGAIN
Most couples don’t struggle because they lack love — they struggle because they’ve lost connection, emotional safety, and the ability to turn toward each other.
If you’ve been feeling distant, stuck in patterns, or unsure how to reconnect, you’re not alone. And you’re not stuck.
There is a clear, simple, Christ-centered way forward.
WHAT THIS COURSE HELPS YOU RESTORE
The Connected Marriage Course is a 12-step marriage transformation journey that integrates biblical wisdom, compassionate counseling, and research-based relationship insights.
It gently guides you toward:
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Renewed emotional closeness
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Calmer, kinder communication
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Rebuilt trust and connection
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Stronger spiritual unity
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A more peaceful and loving atmosphere at home
WHO THIS IS FOR
This course is perfect for couples who:
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Feel disconnected or stuck in cycles
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Long for emotional and spiritual closeness
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Want practical guidance without shame
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Desire a faith-based, compassionate approach
It’s also ideal for healthy couples wanting to deepen their connection.
WHAT YOU’LL EXPERIENCE
Through simple, step-by-step teaching and guided conversations, you’ll learn how small adjustments create lasting change.
Each lesson helps you build:
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Emotional safety
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Connection and tenderness
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Unity and spiritual alignment
This is not theory — it’s transformation through gentle, doable steps.
WHAT’S INSIDE
Inside the Connected Marriage Course, you’ll find:
- Video Lessons
- Quick Reference Guides
- Over 12 Subject Specific Assessments
- Simple, clear teachings from Jacob to guide each step.
- Couples Exercises
- Meaningful conversation starters that create closeness and emotional safety.
- Scripture Integration
Go at your own pace, revisit any time.
MEET JACOB & KIMBERLY
Jacob and Kimberly have been married nearly 30 years, raising six children and building a life of faith, warmth, and intentional love.
Jacob is an ordained minister, biblical counselor, and relationship coach with over 25 years of experience. His training through the Gottman Institute and years of working with couples allow him to blend Scripture with evidence-based tools in a way that is compassionate, practical, and deeply personal.
Together, they’ve walked with countless couples through seasons of struggle into lasting healing and renewed connection.
BONUSES YOU’LL RECEIVE
When you enroll, you also get:
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Access to over 12 Connected Marriage Assessments
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Access to Q&A Message Board with Jacob & Others
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Access to our FULL 120-question Assessment & Reports
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Access to the 12 Breakthrough Conversations Guides
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Specific Husband & Wife 7-Day Challenges
FAQ's
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Do we have to take the course together?
It’s ideal together, but one partner can begin and the other often joins.
How long are the lessons?
Concepts can be grasped in as little as 5 minutes but there are enough tools to keep you in self-discovery mode for an hour or more per lesson.
Is the course biblical?
Yes—every lesson is built on Scriptural truths along with science backed research - turns out science and scripture complement each other beautifully to support healthy relationships.
What if my spouse isn’t motivated?
Even small changes in one partner often shift the marriage.
Do we get lifetime access?
Yes, for as long as the course exists.
START YOUR JOURNEY TODAY
Your marriage is worth investing in.
There is hope, there is healing, and God has more for both of you than distance or discouragement.
MORE DETAILS:
THE COURSE:
This transformative course blends timeless Biblical wisdom with cutting-edge marriage research to introduce the CONNECTED MARRIAGE. It gently guides couples through twelve vital concepts and twelve crucial conversations, designed to foster trust and transparency step by step—empowering you to engage in the honest dialogues essential for genuine relational growth and lasting transformation. Together, these measures create a practical blueprint for building unshakable trust, deep love, and resilient partnership in your marriage. We call them “measures” because your progress and maturity in each can be tracked and celebrated through our assessment system. These twelve contagious habits of relational wholeness can be practiced individually or as a couple, making them accessible and impactful for anyone committed to a thriving union.
THE TOOLS:
Each of the 12 lessons is thoughtfully designed for real-life couples—where one partner might have more time than the other. You can grasp the core concept in just minutes using the short teaching videos, quick-reference guides, and self-assessments, or you can go deeper with the full written introductions, exercises, and downloadable PDF chapters when time allows. This flexible approach lets the partner with more bandwidth dive in, gain insights, and gently bring the busier spouse up to speed—making progress possible even with mismatched schedules. Every lesson also includes a vital conversation guide, which is the real goal of each lesson. Each guide uses specific questions to prompt a crucial dialogue essential for building lasting trust, intimacy, and marital maturity. Use it with a counselor or in a group for more accountability. Or just commit to go through it as an individual or couple, at your own pace. Apply these lessons immediately and watch real connection grow week by week.
THE CONCEPTS:
The course is organized into four major sections, with three lessons per section. Together, these cover the areas proven to have the greatest impact on marital joy and durability: SECTION ONE: Feeling Safe & Secure in Marriage 1. The Chemistry of Everyday Moments How your morning, evening, and daily habits quietly shape the strength of your connection and the quality of your life. 2. The Secret Language of Connection Every “response” you give or receive determines the sense of connection or rejection that grows. 3. Covenant-Level Security How to develop trust and commitment to a point that eliminates insecurity. SECTION TWO: Managing Conflict & Stress 4. Hidden Stressors That Pull You Apart How internal pressures and external demands influence tone, patience, and closeness. 5. Turning Conflict Into Closeness Learn the repair skills that stop cycles and bring you back together quickly. 6. Healing Wounds & Practicing Forgiveness Restore tenderness, safety, and hope where hurt once lived. SECTION THREE: Independent Health & Fruitfulness 7. How Your Body Affects Your Bond Sleep, hormones, nutrition, and physical rhythms matter more than couples realize. 8. Renewing Your Married Mind Emotional patterns and unhealed stories silently impact your marriage — until you address them. 9. Meaning Beyond Marriage How nurturing your soul outside marriage strengthens who you are inside it. SECTION FOUR: Laugh More, Love More, Play More 10. Bringing Back Fun & Playfulness Joy, laughter, and lightness are essential — and deeply bonding. 11. Deepening Sex & Intimacy Reignite desire, closeness, and the physical connection you were meant to enjoy. 12. The Power of Shared Adventure Dates, novelty, and new experiences create the memories that keep bonds for life.
THE CONVERSATIONS:
Between you and your best possible marriage are about a dozen honest conversations that need to take place each year. The problem is that most couples avoid these conversations out of fear or ignorance, going years or even decades without expressing their deepest thoughts, wants, and feelings. This leads to stagnation or deterioration, where the relationship stays stuck in complacency, leaving one or both partners feeling disconnected, isolated and alone. Couples get trapped because they don’t know how to address a handful of critical questions lurking beneath the surface. The first key to a permanent, thriving marriage is addressing the insecurities that prevent honest dialogue. Our 12 conversations start by helping you establish this framework of healthy communication skills, built on security and trust so you can engage in the crucial conversations your heart needs to have without triggering defenses.
THE ASSESSMENTS:
We've invested tremendous care in crafting assessments that deliver profound, personalized insights into how you view yourself, your partner, and your relationship—often revealing blind spots and opportunities for growth in ways that feel like a breakthrough conversation with a trusted guide. Course members enjoy unlimited access to over 15 carefully designed assessments, with new ones added regularly. Each of the 12 lessons includes its own concise 12-question assessment that takes less than 10 minutes to complete—yet packs an educational punch on its own. You can retake any assessment and see new scores as often as you'd like, allowing you to track measurable progress in every key area of marital wholeness over time. More than simple quizzes, these assessments are tools for transformation: the thoughtfully crafted questions spark reflection, while the instant personalized reports offer gentle, actionable suggestions and next steps. Many couples find that a single assessment opens fresh perspectives, deepens self-awareness, and ignites meaningful conversations—bringing you closer to the secure, joyful marriage God intended.
