The Wholeness Method
Scripture-Rooted. Neuroscience-Informed. Designed for Real Connection.
**You scored strongly
in multiple Blueprints
(Which means there are several ways
your desire can come alive)
BUT YOUR CLOSEST
SINGLE MATCH WAS: ​​​
The
"Playful"
Blueprint
(P)
​YOU OPEN THROUGH ENERGY, EXCITEMENT, AND MOMENTUM.
Playfulness awakens you.
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There’s something in you that comes alive when energy reciprocates…
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when there’s flirting… teasing…
and energy moving back and forth...
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The momentum builds...
you anticipate the next move...
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It's a game you want to play...
👉 and all you need is someone to play with.
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A smile that gets returned…
humor that lands...
a suggestive hint, met with wit.​..
and feeling the energy build.
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You may not say it this way…
but there’s a part of you that loves the feeling of:
“I got to them.”
“I moved them.”
“I've won their affection.”
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You charm them… they charm you…
👉 and you play the game of lovers.
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WHAT YOU NEED MOST
You need excitement… energy… and responsiveness.
You need social exchange to feel alive—
👉 not planned… not forced… not routine.
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For you, intimacy works best
when it feels spontaneous…
social… engaging…
like something is actually building between you.
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And for you, there’s often something deeper:
the feeling that you can win.
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Not to control.
Not to dominate.
👉 But to succeed.
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To feel like your energy… your humor… your presence…
can actually get through.​
WHERE THINGS BREAK DOWN
But when things feel stuck…
when there’s no energy... no momentum...
no one to join you...
it can start to feel suffocating.
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Like your energy fades…
👉 and there’s nothing left to feed your desire.
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For you, play doesn't just help you connect...
Play is connection.
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It’s how you release stress.
It’s how you find hope.
It's how you feel known.
It’s how you come alive.
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And when that’s missing…
👉 everything can start to feel stuck… heavy… or empty.
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You begin to shut down when things feel:
• boring or repetitive
• overly serious or heavy
• dominated by responsibility or stress
• socially disconnected or isolating
• or like nothing you do is landing
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Because when connection feels flat…
👉 it starts to feel like you’re losing.
And when that feeling builds…
👉 discouragement sets in.
Not just loss of interest—
👉 but loss of hope.
Because for you, attraction depends on momentum.
And when momentum dies…
👉 desire often goes with it.
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This isn’t immaturity. Nothing’s wrong with you.
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This is how your system was designed to open.
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UNDERSTANDING YOUR FULL PROFILE...
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When you and your partner begin to understand the two or three primary blueprints you each identify with...
And which ones you don't...
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A whole new world of intimacy opens up for you.
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As a Playful Lover...
You begin to realize…
your need for energy, play, and excitement isn’t random—
👉 it’s the pathway into your desire.
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Because when your partner engages with you…
responds… plays back… joins your energy…
👉 everything changes.
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You feel it again—
👉 excitement
👉 momentum
👉 possibility
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And suddenly, connection doesn’t feel stuck anymore—
👉 it feels alive.
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For the first time…
things start to make sense.
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You begin to understand:
• why boredom shuts you down
• why excitement opens you
• why response builds attraction
• and how to create connection that actually works
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And at your core…
you begin to see how you’re actually wired:
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You’re wired for:
excitement over predictability
spontaneity over planning
social energy over isolation
momentum over routine
hope over heaviness
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And for your marriage to thrive, you must learn how to feed these things in a healthy way.
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And when your partner understands this too…
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👉 everything begins to shift between you.
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Because when they join your energy…
respond to your play…
and allow themselves to be moved by you…
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👉 it becomes one of the most powerful ways they can love you.
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FOUNDING MEMBER ACCESS (LIMITED):
LIFETIME ACCESS: $97 ​
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(After Launch Price - Summer 2026: $197 annually)​
✔ Only one purchase per couple needed
✔ Risk-free — full refund if it doesn’t help
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If you’re the type that wants to understand everything before deciding…
Continue Reading.
You identifid most closely with:
THE PLAYFUL BLUEPRINT ​​​​​
But this is only part
of the picture​
—​You also scored highly in other categories as well. ​​​​
Together, these patterns form your unique intimacy profile—shaping how you open, respond, and connect to your partner.
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And even the areas you scored low in…
tell a story about where connection may feel harder—or more confusing.​
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Inside the Intimacy Blueprint system, you begin to see the full picture.
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Not just how you open…
But what’s actually happening between you and your partner.
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Because your sexuality isn’t random.
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It reflects:​
• what helps you feel safe and open
• what you’re drawn toward
• what may feel missing
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And when you begin to understand that…​
Intimacy stops feeling confusing—
and starts becoming something you can finally navigate together.
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And when you discover your blueprint…
You don’t just experience better intimacy—
you finally understand how to meet each other in a way that actually works.
This is where most
couples quietly get stuck.
You may naturally open through emotional connection…​
​while your spouse opens through something completely different.
So what feels loving and obvious to you…​
might not even register the same way to them.
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You reach in a way that makes perfect sense to you…
They respond in a way that makes sense to them…
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And somehow, you both miss each other.​
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Over time:
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One of you feels unseen...
The other feels like they’re trying—but failing...
And both of you quietly start to feel alone.
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Not because you’re broken.
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But because you’ve never been shown how your patterns actually interact.
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👉 This is exactly what the Intimacy Blueprint reveals.
THE
A psychologically rich, spiritually grounded intimacy discovery system for married couples.
Discover your marriage's unique Intimacy Blueprint—and why you and your spouse may feel disconnected, even when you love each other.
Your desire for intimacy is not random.
It's a map to the deepest longing of your heart.
And marriage is designed to be the place where that longing can finally be met.
Want to share your results with your partner?
Or share the quiz with them?​
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Copy & Paste these page links: ​
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This Blueprint Page Link: ​
https://thewholenessmethod.com/playfulblueprint
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Quiz Link: ​
The 8 Intimacy
Blueprint Types
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• The Emotional
Connection awakens me.
When you respond to me in a way that makes me feel truly heard, seen, and known, my heart opens to you...
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• The Sensual
Sensual Engagement awakens me.
Sights, scents, tastes, sounds, and touch... Engage my senses and my defenses begin to fall.
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• The Desired
Being wanted awakens me.
The thought of you getting turned on by me, stirs something deep and wild within me.
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• The Giver
Giving pleasure awakens me.
When you receive my efforts to relax you, bless you, and bring you pleasure, I can't help but want to give you more.
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• The Playful
Play awakens me.
Respond to me playfully with flirtation, charm and joyful energy, and you'll win me over every time.
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• The Imaginative
Imagination awakens me.
Capture my imagination with story, curiosity or novelty—and I'll follow you almost anywhere.​​
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• The Archetypal
Polarity awakens me.
When I leads and protects while feminine trust is inspired to surrender, I am yours.
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• The United
Oneness awakens me.
When our union manifests through shared vision, meaning and agreement, I want oneness with you in every way
"I have an SGP blueprint. I'm a Sensual, Giver, Playful..."
"I'm EDH; Emotional, Desired, Holy..."
​​Discover Your Marriage's Full Intimacy Blueprint
— what it reveals about your subconscious needs, your deepest longings, and how you and your partner’s patterns open to each other.​
For a limited time, you can join as a founding member before the official launch and help shape the Intimacy Blueprint experience.
As a Founding Member, you receive Lifetime Access to everything.
After Launch Price - Summer 2026: $197 annually
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Only one purchase per couple needed.
1.
6 WEEK
FOUNDATIONS
JOURNEY
Twice per week, you'll receive a short message directly to your inbox for six weeks — a total of 12 foundational instructions will prepare your heart, mind, and nervous system for a shame-free reset.
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Some of these instructions will include: ​
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✦ How to Create Safety & Set Boundaries
✦ Understanding Desire & Arousal Guide
✦ What to do with Desire Imbalance
✦ Physiological Guide to sexual performance and dysfunction
✦ How to dissolve shame, misalignment, and frustration.
more...
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($190 value)
HERE'S WHATS INCLUDED
2.
BLUEPRINT
ASSESSMENT
& REPORTS
✦ The Intimacy Blueprint FULL Assessment ($120 Value)
Discover your Full Intimacy Blueprint and your spouse’s.
✦ Your COMPLETE Personalized Blueprint Profile ($75 Value)
Far deeper than brief description for the quiz. These profiles show Strengths, vulnerabilities, fears, desire patterns, emotional needs, spiritual cues and so much more.
✦ The Marriage Dynamic Map ($50 Value)
See exactly how your two types align, clash, misunderstand, and complete one another.
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($245 Total Blueprint Core Value)
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3.
THE BLUEPRINT
COMPANION
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After completing the 6-week Foundations Journey, you will have access to our blueprint companion. One message per week <10 minutes each (but some exercises could last as long as you want🔥)
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ALTERNATING WEEKLY EXERCISES, PROMPTS & SCRIPTS:
First week: Sent to the couple. Short concept description + simple intimacy question practice to do together. ~ 5 minutes
Next week: Separate Private husband/wife tracks designed to surprise your spouse, initiate play, provoke desire, and nurture safety. ~ 5 minutes.
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($200 Value)
4.
UNASHAMED
INTIMACY
TOOLKIT
Your lifetime intimacy toolkit.
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✦ EXPERIENCE ALL 8 BLUEPRINTS THROUGH
THE 8 BLUEPRINTS GUIDED PLAYBOOK
A wild ride with hours of exploration—This is a step-by-step playbook, with scripts and prompts that walk you through each blueprint from initial contact to full expression.
This package includes:
✦ Intimate Conversations Guides
✦ Practices & Exercises
​✦ Step-by-Step Blueprint Playbooks​
✦ Marriage Dynamic Playbook
($245 Value)
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PLUS, AS A FOUNDING MEMBER,
YOU WILL RECEIVE:
PLUS
FOUNDING MEMBER
BENEFITS (Limited-Time)
When you join during our presale, you receive:
✔ Lifetime Access
You will never pay again — all updates and future versions included.
✔ 50% Off Pre-Sale Pricing
Your price today: $97
After launch price: $197–$297
✔ Earliest Access
You get the Blueprint before the public release.
✔ All New Releases First
Every new guide, tool, or update is delivered to you immediately and free.
✔ Founders-Only Sneak Peeks
Behind-the-scenes updates as the Blueprint Types are finalized.
✔ Your Input Shapes the Final Version
Your feedback will help refine the assessment and tools.
Valued at over $800 annually
Lifetime access now yours for onetime payment of $97
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Meet Jacob & Kimberly ​​— Your Guides
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Married since 1997.
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Parents of six Children.
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Ordained ministers, counselors, and relationship coaches for over two decades.
But the deepest part of their credibility doesn’t come from their credentials — it comes from their journey.
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After years of church planting, pastoring and biblical counseling, Jacob suddenly lost his voice. That single event triggered a painful season that nearly broke them: career shifts, displacement, exhaustion, eventual financial collapse, and emotional strain that left deep marks on their hearts and their marriage.
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When stability finally returned, the emotional trauma lingered. In that season, God began a surprising work — starting with Kimberly. Through a series of interactions with God, she experienced a profound rebirth: a total shedding of shame, fear, and old identity. In her own words, “I was born again, again.”
Jacob's rebirth took more time, but before long, they both found themselves married to two new people — and their marriage had to be relearned from the ground up: communication, boundaries, trust, and in particular, intimacy.
As healing took root, something unexpected happened.​ Their intimacy began to awaken. They felt safer, freer, and more honest than ever before. Trust deepened. Curiosity returned. Their bedroom became a place of discovery rather than pressure. And they noticed something crucial:
Their sexual responses were revealing where healing had taken place…
and where healing was still needed.
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Desire, shutdown, openness, avoidance — all of it was speaking.
Their sexuality had become a map of spiritual and emotional renewal.
Over time, intimacy became tender, responsive, playful, joyful, and deeply alive. They experienced a type of connection that far surpassed their honeymoon years — even after decades of marriage, six kids, and the constant pressures of a very busy life.
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They discovered a truth:
Sexual frustration is never just about sex
— it’s the heart trying to speak.
It reveals identity, fear, longing, and where the heart is deeply needing to be met.
This revelation changed everything.
God designed covenant sexuality to unlock hidden truths, restore innocence, and bring profound healing to the soul.
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The Intimacy Blueprint was born from this journey — not simply as a course to “improve your sex life,” but as a God-designed pathway where the deepest longings of the heart are met through covenant intimacy.
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This is why we created the Intimacy Blueprint.
Everything Changes When You Understand Your Blueprint​
Instead of Guessing, You'll Finally Know:
â–¸ Your intimacy type—and your spouse’s
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â–¸ What truly opens your desire (and what shuts it down)
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â–¸ What your spouse needs (and why)
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â–¸ How to create real connection without pressure
​​This isn’t about trying harder.
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It’s about finally understanding what’s been there all along. ​​
FAQs
Is this explicit?
No. It is honest, biblical, trauma-informed, and respectful — never crude. There are no sexual images or nudity, but it does educate in detail about God's design for amazing covenantal sexuality, arousal and desire between a husband and wife.
Is this faith based?
These principals are universal. Whether you are a born-again Christian, an atheist, or something else, as long as you are open minded, and don't mind our references to God's design, you should be able to relate to all of it.
What if our sex life is “fine”?
Then this course will help you experience deeper passion, connection, and joy.
Is it safe for couples who feel fragile?
Yes — safety, pacing, and emotional grounding are built into the entire journey. We always encourage you to go at a pace you feel comfortable with.
Can we do it individually?
Yes — individual learning still transforms the marriage but partners will usually join after they see your assessment results.
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What if intimacy is painful, rare, or stressful?
This Blueprint helps create clarity, safety, and healing without pressure.
Will this create pressure?
No. The course begins by laying a framework for safety and pacing, and these are both built into the entire process as a foundation.
YOUR INTIMACY DOESN’T
HAVE TO STAY HERE
Intimacy was never meant to feel:
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confusing
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pressured
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distant
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or out of reach
It was designed to feel:
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safe
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alive
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meaningful
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deeply connected
And for many couples…
> this is the moment everything starts to make sense.
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You don’t need more effort.
You need understanding.
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And once you have it—everything changes.
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This is where clarity begins.
Unlock Your Full Intimacy Blueprint
Try the Blueprint completely risk-free. If you don’t experience real clarity and progress after completion, we’ll give you a full refund. No questions asked.
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COURSES: Individual Wholeness | Marriage Wholeness | Sexual Wholeness
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NOTE: Jacob is a Pastoral Counselor and Marriage Coach.
Coaching courses are not therapy; consult professionals for therapy needs.
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