MEET JACOB & KIMBERLY 

​​— Your Guides to Holy, Connected, Renewed Intimacy

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Jacob & Kimberly have been married for 30 years and have raised six children.

They are ordained ministers, counselors, and relationship coaches with over 25 years of experience. But the deepest part of their credibility doesn’t come from training — it comes from their story.

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After years of church planting and pastoring, Jacob lost his voice — literally. 

That loss was the first domino in a painful set of circumstances that stripped away almost every comfort in life. They found themselves in debt, exhausted, displaced, working jobs they never imagined themselves doing, far from friends or family. The season nearly broke them.

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When Jacob’s voice was eventually healed, they were able to move their family back into stability — but the trauma of that season had left a deep mark on their marriage.

In the years that followed, Jacob and Kimberly began intentionally pursuing emotional and spiritual healing. God met them in that journey, gently reviving their hearts and bringing painful areas into the light — childhood wounds, regretful choices, and betrayals from leaders and friends.

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But healing didn’t arrive all at once. 

As they sought God more deeply, something unexpected happened — and it began with Kimberly. Through a series of exchanges with God, she experienced a total death and resurrection of herself. She had become a totally new creation. The old was truly gone; no resentment, no wounds, no baggage... It had all died with her old identity. And having just witnessed the miracle of Kimberly's transformation, Jacob began to have his own set of exchanges with God that led him through a much longer process of dying and being reborn and rebuilt.

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It didn't actually feel like they were being healed, but more like their old selves were finally able to die completely and entirely new identities had been born. 

It was scary for them at first because they were both now married to totally different people and were unsure if all the boundaries were still the same. They had to relearn marriage, relearn permissions, relearn communication, and rediscover intimacy. 

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Out of that rebirth came a surprising shift in their marriage — especially in their intimacy.

As emotional healing settled into their hearts, their sexual connection began to change in profound ways: safer, freer, more honest, more responsive, more playful, more tender, more alive. It was as if the healing God had done in their souls was now being expressed in their bodies, their desire, and the way they connected with one another.

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And that’s when they began to notice something crucial: 

Their sexual responses were revealing where healing had already taken place… and where healing was still needed. Desire, shutdown, openness, avoidance, arousal, warmth, hesitancy — all of it was telling a deeper story. Their sexuality had become a map of emotional and spiritual renewal.

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This realization changed everything.

As they began to connect the dots between emotional healing and sexual intimacy, they realized they had discovered a key to the most incredible breakthrough in marriage.

They had been married over two decades, had six children, financial stress, tons of work, and yet they couldn't get enough of each other. They found themselves experiencing a kind of passion, curiosity, and connection that exceeded even that of their honeymoon phase. Every chance they had, they were sneaking off to make love and learn more about each other — and more about themselves. 

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Many believe this kind of intimacy fades with time, but once you see that God designed covenant sexuality to unlock the hidden truths of the soul, it becomes endlessly fascinating and deeply holy.

Because sexual frustration is never just about sex — it is your heart trying to speak. It reveals what you believe (or don’t) about your identity, what you fear, what you long for, and where healing is still needed.

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The type of frustration you feel… or the type of longing you carry… is not a sign of failure — it is an invitation. In covenant marriage, this becomes one of the greatest places of discovery and healing, because no other relationship offers deeper access to security, which determines your level of honesty, which determines your level of intimacy. 

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Jacob and Kiimberly knew they couldn't keep this breakthrough to themselves so they decided to create this course. The course is not merely to improve your sex life, but to help you experience healing, restoration, and the goodness of God in your marriage.