The Wholeness Method
Biblical & Neuroscience-Based Marriage Transformation
About the Course
THE COURSE:
This transformative course blends timeless Biblical wisdom with cutting-edge marriage research to introduce the 12 Measures of a Winning Marriage. It gently guides couples through twelve vital concepts and twelve crucial conversations, designed to foster trust and transparency step by step—empowering you to engage in the honest dialogues essential for genuine relational growth and lasting transformation. Together, these measures create a practical blueprint for building unshakable trust, deep love, and resilient partnership in your marriage. We call them “measures” because your progress and maturity in each can be tracked and celebrated through our assessment system. These twelve contagious habits of relational wholeness can be practiced individually or as a couple, making them accessible and impactful for anyone committed to a thriving union.
THE TOOLS:
Each of the 12 lessons is thoughtfully designed for real-life couples—where one partner might have more time than the other. You can grasp the core concept in just minutes using the short teaching videos, quick-reference guides, and self-assessments, or you can go deeper with the full written introductions, exercises, and downloadable PDF chapters when time allows. This flexible approach lets the partner with more bandwidth dive in, gain insights, and gently bring the busier spouse up to speed—making progress possible even with mismatched schedules. Every lesson also includes a vital conversation guide, which is the real goal of each lesson. Each guide uses specific questions to prompt a crucial dialogue essential for building lasting trust, intimacy, and marital maturity. Use it with a counselor or in a group for more accountability. Or just commit to go through it as an individual or couple, at your own pace. Apply these lessons immediately and watch real connection grow week by week.
THE CONCEPTS:
The course is organized into four major sections—covering the areas proven to have the greatest impact on marital joy and durability: Security / Insecurity – Building deep emotional safety and trust Conflict – Turning disagreements into opportunities for growth Individual Health – Strengthening personal wholeness for a stronger union Relational Fun – Rediscovering joy, play, and shared delight These four priorities, backed by decades of marriage research, are addressed through 12 transformative lessons—each one a practical step toward the secure, vibrant, and deeply connected marriage you long for. See our Lesson Titles Below: SECTION ONE: Removing Insecurity from Your Marriage MEASURE 1: Understanding Your Connection MEASURE 2: Deepening Your Communication MEASURE 3: Practicing Your Covenant MEASURE 4: Growing Your Trust SECTION TWO: Managing Stress, Conflicts & Wounds Productively MEASURE 5: Understanding Your Stress MEASURE 6: Managing Your Incompatibilities MEASURE 7: Using Your Conflict MEASURE 8: Healing Your Heart SECTION THREE: Becoming a Healthy Partner MEASURE 9: Prioritizing Your Individual Health MEASURE 10: Controlling Your Thoughts MEASURE 11: Increasing Your Adaptibility SECTION FOUR: SEX, FUN & FRIENDSHIP MEASURE 12: Enjoying Your Partner
THE CONVERSATIONS:
Between you and your best possible marriage are about a dozen honest conversations that need to take place each year. The problem is that most couples avoid these conversations out of fear or ignorance, going years or even decades without expressing their deepest thoughts, wants, and feelings. This leads to stagnation or deterioration, where the relationship stays stuck in complacency, leaving one or both partners feeling disconnected, isolated and alone. Couples get trapped because they don’t know how to address a handful of critical questions lurking beneath the surface. The first key to a permanent, thriving marriage is addressing the insecurities that prevent honest dialogue. Our 12 conversations start by helping you establish this framework of healthy communication skills, built on security and trust so you can engage in the crucial conversations your heart needs to have without triggering defenses.
THE ASSESSMENTS:
We've invested tremendous care in crafting assessments that deliver profound, personalized insights into how you view yourself, your partner, and your relationship—often revealing blind spots and opportunities for growth in ways that feel like a breakthrough conversation with a trusted guide. Course members enjoy unlimited access to over 15 carefully designed assessments, with new ones added regularly. Each of the 12 lessons includes its own concise 12-question assessment that takes less than 10 minutes to complete—yet packs an educational punch on its own. You can retake any assessment and see new scores as often as you'd like, allowing you to track measurable progress in every key area of marital wholeness over time. More than simple quizzes, these assessments are tools for transformation: the thoughtfully crafted questions spark reflection, while the instant personalized reports offer gentle, actionable suggestions and next steps. Many couples find that a single assessment opens fresh perspectives, deepens self-awareness, and ignites meaningful conversations—bringing you closer to the secure, joyful marriage God intended.
