An Established Path to a Thriving Marriage—
Built on the Four Traits Shared by the Strongest 20% of Marriages.*
* The Research Behind the Four Traits “The strongest 20%” is a Wholeness Method benchmark describing the highest tier of marital health—not a percentage reported by any single study. The Four Traits represent a synthesis of decades of research on stable, satisfying, and flourishing relationships, including longitudinal work by Gottman and Levenson and peer-reviewed research published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, Journal of Family Psychology, Family Process, and PNAS.
Professional Endorsements
"Jacob has a very unique gift for understanding people. I would highly recommend him for solving anything people related."
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- Mike Frank
(Former Senior VP - PepsiCo & The Walt Disney Company)
"Jacob Reeve has been one of the greatest influencers in my life."
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- Rob Dayton
(National Director of Coaches for The Masters Program & Founder of 100X Life)
"Jacob is likely one of the best marriage coaches in the nation. If anyone wants a better marriage, don't miss this."
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- Steven Uggen
(Founder & Director of Firebase Movement & Man Church)
WE KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO NEED HELP IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
We've been married over 30 years, raised six kids, and served as a pastor, marriage counselor and relationship coach for more than 20 of those years. During that time, I've helped couples navigate conflict, disconnection, betrayal, intimacy struggles, and seasons when they weren't sure how to find their way back to each other.
But we haven't just walked alongside other couples through hard seasons—we've had our own. Kimberly and I know what it's like to have the rug pulled out from under us, to face overwhelming stress, and to reach places where the life and relationship we thought we understood suddenly didn't feel so certain. Yet Something we discovered is that every time we overcame a major trial, the lessons learned could become our greatest strengths and pleasures.
Having lived this ourselves—and knowing how transformed our own marriage has become—is what gives me so much confidence and hope when I sit with couples who are in despair. I don't see your weaknesses or struggles as the end of the story. In fact, I see them becoming your greatest superpowers. I don't believe great marriages are built by two people who get everything right. They're built by two people who learn how to face what's difficult, grow through it, and intentionally build something better together.
— Jacob Reeve
FAITH-AWARE, NEURO-SCIENCE-INFORMED, RESEARCH-BACKED
THE LATEST RESEARCH SUGGEST THREE BROAD OUTCOMES FOR FIRST TIME MARRIAGES TODAY:
~40% WILL EVENTUALLY END IN DIVORCE
~40% WILL STAY MARRIED, BUT WILL NOT CONSISTENTLY FLOURISH
~20% WILL LEARN TO CONSISTENTLY FLOURISH
WHAT SETS "FLOURISHING" MARRIAGES APART?
For years, much of marriage counseling has focused primarily on communication and conflict resolution. Those things matter—but decades of longitudinal, physiological, and relationship-flourishing research now give us a much fuller picture of what separates marriages that merely remain intact from those that truly thrive.
Remarkably, many of these discoveries echo relational wisdom found in Scripture for nearly 2,000 years—flourishing marriages are not conflict-free, nor are they built on finding the perfect partner, nor are they a result of random chance or luck.
FLOURISHING RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE DIRECT RESULT OF COUPLES PRACTICING FOUR RELATIONAL HABITS.
AND THE GOOD NEWS IS, THESE HABITS CAN BE LEARNED.
THE FOUR HABITS OF
A THRIVING MARRIAGE:
1. Independent
Health & Happiness
Each partner takes responsibility for their own emotional health, happiness, patterns, reactions, and relational well-being.
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2. Connection
& Responsiveness
They recognize and respond to each other's bids for attention, affection, support, and connection—helping each other feel seen, valued, and loved.
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3. Healthy Conflict
& Co-Regulation
They learn to manage stress together—soothing nervous systems instead of triggering them—and navigating conflict, hurt, and repair constructively.
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4. Friendship
& Enjoyment
They intentionally invest in friendship, affection, play, romance, and shared experiences that keep the relationship enjoyable and alive.
HOW I HELP YOU:
I don't use the FOUR TRAITS as a formula; I use them as a framework.
Through assessment, conversation and contemplative prayer, I help you identify the deeper patterns, stressors, beliefs, wounds, and relational dynamics affecting your life and marriage. We then personalize the counseling and training around the areas where you need the greatest support and growth.
You receive the structure of research-informed, biblically grounded fundamentals—combined with the personal attention of individualized coaching.
Depending on what we discover, our work may place greater emphasis on one or more of the Four Habits. For one person, that might mean strengthening individual wholeness by addressing past wounds, changing entrenched habits, or restoring healthier rhythms of life and rest. For another couple, it might mean learning to regulate and respond to one another in ways that create greater security, connection, and intimacy.
Other couples may need to develop healthier ways of navigating stress and conflict—or intentionally renew their friendship, shared interests, playfulness, affection, and sexuality. Or we may uncover something important that does not fit neatly into any single category.
Most couples benefit from working in several of these areas, but one or two usually present the greatest opportunity for transformation. The Four Habits help us identify where to begin without reducing your marriage or your story to a predetermined program.
Real Stories.
Real Change.
"We haven't had a fight that ends negatively since we began... Our marriage has had a major turn around."
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- Henry & Michelle Arroyo
"What an incredible experience. I was able to let go of the pain and give love to my wife again. This stuff is crazy powerful."
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- Chris F.
"Jacob literally saved our marriage. We had no idea how dysfunctional our habits were, and how easy it could be to change them."
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- Dom & Sarah Sanders
"Our experience was transformative. We felt lost and disillusioned and with little sense of hope, but within a few weeks, we were able to overcome major hurdles and rediscover love and connection again."
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- Joshua & Carissa Stutsman
"What a gift! It was like giving Jesus direct access to our hearts..."
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- Nicole & Wes Munyon
"Jacob helped me discover and replace several lies I was believing that kept me in broken patterns throughout my life. It changed the way I will think about myself forever."
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- Mike R.
"Jacob has the gift of wisdom and revelation. We loved our time with him. It was truly transformative.
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- Jora & Liz Bhular
"EVERYONE should experience these training sessions, not just married couples."
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- Deborah Delms
WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE TO BEGIN?
MARRIAGE
WHOLENESS >
Build a marriage that feels
connected and alive by training couples in the four fundamentals of the strongest marriages.
Bring transformational marriage & wholeness training to your friend group, church or ministry.
WHAT YOU
CAN EXPECT:
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ASSESSMENT
We begin with a focused conversation and take personal inventories designed to identify patterns, strengths, goals, and areas for development.
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DISCOVERY
Together, we explore what you discovered, clarify where you’re thriving or getting stuck, and identify evidence-informed principles that can support greater connection and personal growth.
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TRAINING
We train you in specific, real-life adjustments and help you practice new skills and behaviors that create lasting change.
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REFLECTION & REPEAT
Together, we process what you're experiencing through meaningful conversation, reflection, prayer, and personalized exercises—then measure what's changing, make adjustments, and continue the process.
You don't just learn about yourself or your relationship. You put what you discover into practice—in your actual life, one intentional shift at a time.
Then we evaluate what happened, adjust what isn't working, and build on what is.
The goal isn't simply greater understanding.
It’s obtaining practical skills that help you recognize, practice, and evaluate meaningful progress over time.
YOU CAN CHOOSE
THE LEVEL OF SUPPORT
THAT'S RIGHT FOR YOU
Some people simply need the right information and tools. Others need personalized guidance, accountability, and time to create deeper change.
Choose the level of support that best fits your needs, goals, and budget.
SELF-GUIDED >
Starting at $97
Work at your own pace
Learn the fundamentals and begin making changes independently
✓ Assessments & personalized results
✓ Online Training, exercises & tools
✓ Add a 90-minute facilitated session — $290
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4-WEEK FOCUSED COACHING >
$925 One-time investment
4 sessions over 4-8 weeks
Payment plans available
Master the core fundamentals while focusing on the areas where you need the most help.
✓ In-depth assessment & discovery
✓ Personalized training & exercises
✓ A tangible change to implement after each session
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12-WEEK TRANSFORMATION >
$2600 One-time investment
12 sessions over 3-5 months
Payment plans available
Go deeper through a comprehensive 3-4 month process personalized around your patterns, needs, and goals.
✓ Comprehensive assessment & discovery
✓ 12-part personalized training process
✓ Tangible changes to implement after each session
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ONGOING COMMITMENTS >
CUSTOMIZED PROGRAM & PRICING
For couples or men dealing with crisis, infidelity, significant challenges, destructive patterns, or simply wanting continued, consistent care & counsel.
✓ Personally tailored transformation plan
✓ Personalized frequency & level of support
✓ Ongoing check ins, guidance & support
FLEXIBLE PAYEMENT OPTIONS:
Getting the right help shouldn't be out of reach. Flexible payment plans are available, and we offer different levels of support for different needs and budgets.
If you're not sure what you can afford, start a conversation. We'll help you explore an option that may work for your situation.