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Scripture-Rooted. Neuroscience-Informed. Designed for Real Connection.
**You scored strongly
in multiple Blueprints
(Which means there are several ways
your desire can come alive)
BUT YOUR CLOSEST
SINGLE MATCH WAS: ​​​
The
"Holy"
Blueprint
(H)
Most people with this Blueprint have felt this for years — but never had language for it.
**Your Marriage Isn't Broken. You Just Open to Intimacy Differently.**
Your strongest pattern is:
HOLY CONNECTION
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And once you understand this, everything
about your desire starts to make sense.
THE HOLY LOVER
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You Open Through Meaning and Alignment.
Your system doesn’t open fully unless it feels right—
not just physically or emotionally…
but spiritually.
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When intimacy feels aligned with your values and your faith,
your body can finally relax—and your heart begins to open.
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For you, connection isn’t just about closeness—
it’s about righteousness and meaning.
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It needs to feel pure… intentional…
and in harmony with what you believe is right and true.
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But when something feels off…
misaligned… or internally conflicted…
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you don’t just feel hesitant—
you feel God is trying to show you something.
And your connection to God is what everything else must flow through—even pleasure.
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What You Need Most
Your nervous system wants to feel a sense of spiritual alignment, permission and meaning, where security is anchored in covenant, and intimacy feels honoring to God, intentional, and fully at peace.
Where Things Break Down
Your nervous system will make you feel unsettled if intimacy feels disconnected from your values, or when internal tension creates uncertainty or hesitation.
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What Awakens You
Shared faith…
covenant commitment...
meaningfulness...
and a sense that your connection is sacred and aligned.
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👉 This isn’t restriction. It’s design.
This is how your system creates safety.
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When things feel aligned…
your mind settles, your heart opens,
and intimacy becomes natural instead of conflicted.
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This might also explain your spouse too…
or someone else you know...​
Most people read this and immediately think of someone else.
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But this is only part
of the picture.
Because intimacy is not just about how YOU open. It’s about what happens when your pattern meets your spouse’s.​
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What you’ve just read is a short glimpse into the Holy Blueprint…
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but it's only one part of how you experience intimacy.
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Most people don’t have just one Blueprint.
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You likely have 2 to 4 strong patterns—
all influencing how you open, respond and connect intimately.
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And even when you discover your full Blueprint…
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that’s still only half the story.
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Because intimacy isn’t just about how you open…
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—it’s about how both of you open together.
This is where most
couples quietly get stuck.
You may naturally open through holy connection…
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while your spouse opens through something completely different.
So what feels loving and obvious to you…
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might not even register the same way to them.
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You reach for connection in a way that makes perfect sense to you…
They respond in a way that makes sense to them…
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And somehow, you both miss each other.
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​And unless you understand both patterns, you will keep repeating the same confusion—with new effort, and the same disappointment.
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Over time, that creates something neither of you intended:
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One of you feels unseen...
The other feels like they’re trying—but failing...
And both of you quietly start to feel alone.
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Not because you’re broken.
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But because you’ve never been shown how your patterns actually interact.
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how to approach each other…
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or how to talk about what’s really happening underneath it all.
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👉 And until you can see both patterns clearly…
nothing really changes.
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You just keep trying harder…
in ways that don’t actually reach each other.
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👉 This is exactly what the Intimacy Blueprint reveals.
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Discover Your Marriage's Full Intimacy Blueprint,
— what it reveals about your subconscious needs, your deepest longings, and how you and your partner’s patterns best work together.​
​​This isn't a book.
It's not a course.
And it's not just more content to consume.
It's an interactive journey in self-discovery that will reshape the way you and your spouse approach intimacy for the rest of your life.
FOUNDING MEMBER PRE-SALE
50% OFF + LIFETIME ACCESS!
(After Launch Price - Summer 2026: $197 annually)
THE
A psychologically rich, spiritually grounded intimacy discovery system for married couples.
Discover your marriage's unique Intimacy Blueprint—and why you and your spouse may feel disconnected, even when you love each other.
Your desire for intimacy is not random.
It's a map to the deepest longing of your heart.
And marriage is designed to be the place where that longing can finally be met.
Want to share your results with your partner?
Or share the quiz with them?​
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Copy & Paste these page links: ​
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This Blueprint Page Link: ​
https://thewholenessmethod.com/holyblueprint
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Quiz Link: ​
The 8 Intimacy
Blueprint Types
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• The Emotional
Connection awakens me.
When you respond to me in a way that makes me feel truly heard, seen, and known, my heart opens to you...
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• The Sensual
Sensual Engagement awakens me.
Sights, scents, tastes, sounds, and touch... Engage my senses and my defenses begin to fall.
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• The Desired
Being wanted awakens me.
The thought of you getting turned on by me, stirs something deep and wild within me.
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• The Giver
Giving pleasure awakens me.
When you receive my efforts to relax you, bless you, and bring you pleasure, I can't help but want to give you more.
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• The Playful
Play awakens me.
Respond to me playfully with flirtation, charm and joyful energy, and you'll win me over every time.
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• The Imaginative
Imagination awakens me.
Capture my imagination with story, curiosity or novelty—and I'll follow you almost anywhere.​​
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• The Archetypal
Polarity awakens me.
When masculine strength leads and protects while feminine trust is inspired to surrender, I am yours.
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• The Holy
Meaningfulness awakens me.
When I know our intimacy is honoring to God, my heart opens to love you even more.
"I have an SGP blueprint. I'm a Sensual, Giver, Playful..."
"I'm EDH; Emotional, Desired, Holy..."
​​Discover Your Marriage's Full Intimacy Blueprint
— what it reveals about your subconscious needs, your deepest longings, and how you and your partner’s patterns open to each other.​
For a limited time, you can join as a founding member before the official launch and help shape the Intimacy Blueprint experience.
As a Founding Member, you receive Lifetime Access to everything.
After Launch Price - Summer 2026: $197 annually
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Only one purchase per couple needed.
1.
6 WEEK
FOUNDATIONS
JOURNEY
Twice per week, you'll receive a short message directly to your inbox for six weeks — a total of 12 foundational instructions will prepare your heart, mind, and nervous system for a shame-free reset.
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Some of these instructions will include: ​
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✦ How to Create Safety & Set Boundaries
✦ Understanding Desire & Arousal Guide
✦ What to do with Desire Imbalance
✦ Physiological Guide to sexual performance and dysfunction
✦ How to dissolve shame, misalignment, and frustration.
more...
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($190 value)
HERE'S WHATS INCLUDED
2.
BLUEPRINT
ASSESSMENT
& REPORTS
✦ The Intimacy Blueprint FULL Assessment ($120 Value)
Discover your Full Intimacy Blueprint and your spouse’s.
✦ Your COMPLETE Personalized Blueprint Profile ($75 Value)
Far deeper than brief description for the quiz. These profiles show Strengths, vulnerabilities, fears, desire patterns, emotional needs, spiritual cues and so much more.
✦ The Marriage Dynamic Map ($50 Value)
See exactly how your two types align, clash, misunderstand, and complete one another.
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($245 Total Blueprint Core Value)
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3.
THE BLUEPRINT
COMPANION
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After completing the 6-week Foundations Journey, you will have access to our blueprint companion. One message per week <10 minutes each (but some exercises could last as long as you want🔥)
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ALTERNATING WEEKLY EXERCISES, PROMPTS & SCRIPTS:
First week: Sent to the couple. Short concept description + simple intimacy question practice to do together. ~ 5 minutes
Next week: Separate Private husband/wife tracks designed to surprise your spouse, initiate play, provoke desire, and nurture safety. ~ 5 minutes.
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($200 Value)
4.
UNASHAMED
INTIMACY
TOOLKIT
Your lifetime intimacy toolkit.
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✦ EXPERIENCE ALL 8 BLUEPRINTS THROUGH
THE 8 BLUEPRINTS GUIDED PLAYBOOK
A wild ride with hours of exploration—This is a step-by-step playbook, with scripts and prompts that walk you through each blueprint from initial contact to full expression.
This package includes:
✦ Intimate Conversations Guides
✦ Practices & Exercises
​✦ Step-by-Step Blueprint Playbooks​
✦ Marriage Dynamic Playbook
($245 Value)
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PLUS, AS A FOUNDING MEMBER,
YOU WILL RECEIVE:
PLUS
FOUNDING MEMBER
BENEFITS (Limited-Time)
When you join during our presale, you receive:
✔ Lifetime Access
You will never pay again — all updates and future versions included.
✔ 50% Off Pre-Sale Pricing
Your price today: $97
After launch price: $197–$297
✔ Earliest Access
You get the Blueprint before the public release.
✔ All New Releases First
Every new guide, tool, or update is delivered to you immediately and free.
✔ Founders-Only Sneak Peeks
Behind-the-scenes updates as the Blueprint Types are finalized.
✔ Your Input Shapes the Final Version
Your feedback will help refine the assessment and tools.
Valued at over $800 annually
Lifetime access now yours for onetime payment of $97
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Meet Jacob & Kimberly ​​— Your Guides
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Married since 1997.
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Parents of six Children.
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Ordained ministers, counselors, and relationship coaches for over two decades.
But the deepest part of their credibility doesn’t come from their credentials — it comes from their journey.
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After years of church planting, pastoring and biblical counseling, Jacob suddenly lost his voice. That single event triggered a painful season that nearly broke them: career shifts, displacement, exhaustion, eventual financial collapse, and emotional strain that left deep marks on their hearts and their marriage.
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When stability finally returned, the emotional trauma lingered. In that season, God began a surprising work — starting with Kimberly. Through a series of interactions with God, she experienced a profound rebirth: a total shedding of shame, fear, and old identity. In her own words, “I was born again, again.”
Jacob's rebirth took more time, but before long, they both found themselves married to two new people — and their marriage had to be relearned from the ground up: communication, boundaries, trust, and in particular, intimacy.
As healing took root, something unexpected happened.​ Their intimacy began to awaken. They felt safer, freer, and more honest than ever before. Trust deepened. Curiosity returned. Their bedroom became a place of discovery rather than pressure. And they noticed something crucial:
Their sexual responses were revealing where healing had taken place…
and where healing was still needed.
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Desire, shutdown, openness, avoidance — all of it was speaking.
Their sexuality had become a map of spiritual and emotional renewal.
Over time, intimacy became tender, responsive, playful, joyful, and deeply alive. They experienced a type of connection that far surpassed their honeymoon years — even after decades of marriage, six kids, and the constant pressures of a very busy life.
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They discovered a truth:
Sexual frustration is never just about sex
— it’s the heart trying to speak.
It reveals identity, fear, longing, and where the heart is deeply needing to be met.
This revelation changed everything.
God designed covenant sexuality to unlock hidden truths, restore innocence, and bring profound healing to the soul.
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The Intimacy Blueprint was born from this journey — not simply as a course to “improve your sex life,” but as a God-designed pathway where the deepest longings of the heart are met through covenant intimacy.
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This is why we created the Intimacy Blueprint.
Everything Changes When You Understand Your Blueprint​
Instead of Guessing, You'll Finally Know:
â–¸ Your intimacy type—and your spouse’s
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â–¸ What truly opens your desire (and what shuts it down)
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â–¸ What your spouse needs (and why)
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â–¸ How to create real connection without pressure
​​This isn’t about trying harder.
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It’s about finally understanding what’s been there all along. ​​
FAQs
Is this explicit?
No. It is honest, biblical, trauma-informed, and respectful — never crude. There are no sexual images or nudity, but it does educate in detail about God's design for amazing covenantal sexuality, arousal and desire between a husband and wife.
Is this faith based?
These principals are universal. Whether you are a born-again Christian, an atheist, or something else, as long as you are open minded, and don't mind our references to God's design, you should be able to relate to all of it.
What if our sex life is “fine”?
Then this course will help you experience deeper passion, connection, and joy.
Is it safe for couples who feel fragile?
Yes — safety, pacing, and emotional grounding are built into the entire journey. We always encourage you to go at a pace you feel comfortable with.
Can we do it individually?
Yes — individual learning still transforms the marriage but partners will usually join after they see your assessment results.
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What if intimacy is painful, rare, or stressful?
This Blueprint helps create clarity, safety, and healing without pressure.
Will this create pressure?
No. The course begins by laying a framework for safety and pacing, and these are both built into the entire process as a foundation.
YOUR INTIMACY DOESN’T
HAVE TO STAY HERE
Intimacy was never meant to feel:
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confusing
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pressured
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distant
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or out of reach
It was designed to feel:
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safe
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alive
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meaningful
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deeply connected
And for many couples…
> this is the moment everything starts to make sense.
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You don’t need more effort.
You need understanding.
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And once you have it—everything changes.
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This is where clarity begins.
Unlock Your Full Intimacy Blueprint
Try the Blueprint completely risk-free. If you don’t experience real clarity and progress after completion, we’ll give you a full refund. No questions asked.
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COURSES: Individual Wholeness | Marriage Wholeness | Sexual Wholeness
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NOTE: Jacob is a Pastoral Counselor and Marriage Coach.
Coaching courses are not therapy; consult professionals for therapy needs.
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